If you simply can’t accept the physical compatibility with someone and want to end things, what would be the best way to tell them it’s over?

I’ll answer this one too. > Even after I tell him, “I don’t like this,” he just says, “I’m a total sadist,” so I don’t see any room for improvement. It sounds like the man may be misunderstanding the situation a little. I think you should be direct and say: “I don’t like this, so I’d like today to be our last time seeing each other.” If you’re afraid to say it in person, you could call him when you’re apart and say something like: “I believe I’ve told you this several times, but I don’t like ○○, so I’d like to end things.” He may respond, “I didn’t realize you disliked it that much. I won’t do it again, so would you consider continuing to see me?” If that happens, you could treat it as his last chance and continue meeting as before. However, if it turns out to be a lie and he does the same thing again next time, I don’t think you need to see him after that. Alternatively, if he was looking for someone who enjoys that kind of play, then once you send the message above, he may simply say, “I understand,” and you may be able to part ways amicably.

This is Joe, a column writer. It may sound blunt, but I think being straightforward is best. To be honest, I’m not entirely sure why you can’t just tell him clearly. Perhaps he has trouble understanding, but have you properly explained that this is serious enough for you to end the relationship? Even if it’s only once, please try to communicate your feelings clearly and directly. This may not be the answer you were hoping for, but I hope you’re able to end things smoothly.