I have a papa who usually gives me ¥100,000 for dinner only (no intimacy), but after nearly a year in this arrangement, he’s started saying things like he’d like to move toward an adult relationship (intimate).

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So I’d like to ask about the allowance for an adult relationship. If a papa pays ¥100,000 for dinner, what amount do you think I could ask for without putting him off or making him lose interest? The reason I ask is that I have another papa who gives me ¥500,000 every time. So while I’m not expecting to ask the dinner-only papa for ¥500,000, it would be difficult for me unless he offered a substantial amount for an adult relationship. Personally, I was perfectly happy continuing to receive ¥100,000 without intimacy, but now that this papa has started bringing up the subject, I’m unsure how to make my proposal. Any advice would be appreciated.

Answer 1

“You’d need to offer me a reasonable amount for that to be possible.” Ask him, “How much did you have in mind?”—when you meet in person, of course. If it’s not the amount you’re hoping for, I think it’s best to dodge the question with something like, “I enjoy our meals together just as they are.” If it is the amount you want, then you can agree.

Answer 2

If it’s been going on for a year, you’ve probably built up a certain level of rapport, so the only real option is to discuss it with your papa (a male supporter). If you have a request you can’t compromise on, I think you should just say so. If you give in, you’ll probably only regret it later… Even if you ask for advice, no one else can really know the background or the relationship dynamic—only the two people involved can.

Answer 3

I know there are women like that, but I wouldn’t ask questions like that on this Q&A site.

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