I’m a male standard member. I usually book a hotel buffet. It lasts about two hours, and if we’re full, we can wrap things up early. Plus, there’s no need to worry about likes and dislikes.
Maybe it’s because I have a sweet tooth, but when I took her to a strawberry dessert buffet for our first meeting, she was thrilled.
I’ll answer this as well.
Regarding the four hours: this is only a guideline.
Some people may think that since it’s merely a guideline and not a rule, they can ignore it. But this is Japan, and when something is described as a guideline, it’s generally understood that it should still be used as the standard.
As for how to interpret the four hours:
2 hours for the meal + 2 hours of private time = 4 hours total for the date.
So, if you part ways after the meal, the guideline is originally 2 hours. That’s why the guideline for women with Dating Type A is 2 hours.
However, if we explain it that way, Type B women might only set aside two hours. Reflecting men’s opinion that while they understand the first date is dinner only, they can’t build a connection if they only have two hours, we ask Type B women to keep four hours open as well.
That said, even though they are asked to keep four hours open, the basic arrangement for Type B is still to part ways after dinner on the first date. If the date ends after the meal, the basic guideline is two hours.
Also, some people may assume that “private time” means they can spend as many hours together as they want. But even if it develops into private time, the first date was arranged by the club, so we ask that you use two hours as the guideline for that part as well.
If you want to spend more time together, please arrange to meet on another day and discuss with her properly what kind of date you’d both like to have.
> Worried that I might be accused of a “dating type scam,” I also went along with going to a room.
If you did that with the man’s feelings in mind, I think it would be wonderful if you continued doing so. That’s very considerate of you.
However, the club can determine whether it was a dating type scam by looking at the past dates, assuming we received the questionnaires, so I don’t think you need to worry about that.
Recently, we received the following feedback from a man who had been turned down by a Type C woman:
> “It seems that ‘Type C can turn you down at any time’ may have been taken too literally, so perhaps she interpreted the club’s explanation in her own way.”
I wasn’t there, so I don’t know exactly how the woman turned him down. However, with Dating Type C, there is a 50% chance that the date will develop into private time after the meal.
There is also a 50% chance of being turned down, so men need to take that possibility into account in advance. They also need to think about how to avoid being turned down. If that strategy works, their chances of success with a Type C partner may approach 100%.
Just to reiterate:
Dating Type C is 50%.
> When something like this happens, I start wondering whether, if I’m invited to dinner on a first date again, I should just say, “Tea or coffee only is fine,” to avoid trouble.
If you enjoyed the meal itself, I don’t think there’s any need to specifically say that you only want tea or coffee.
This may have just been a one-off, so perhaps you could wait and see how the next date goes.
> He replied with an abusive message saying, “You only think about yourself and don’t consider the other person at all!”
He wasn’t exactly a gentleman. I understand that being turned down can be upsetting, but compatibility is a factor, so I wish the man had managed to hold back a little.
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I’m with you on that truly intense papa-katsu gentleman. lol
They’re all choices that should take about an hour if you keep things short. lol
I sometimes add tempura to those three as well.
French dining is out of the question.
Three and a half hours… it would be painful just sitting there.
Once about an hour has passed, you should have a sense of how the course is going, so the man should ask the restaurant to shorten the course and set an end time.
If it ends up taking the full amount of time,
he should send her home that same day.
If he’s a male member who can’t do those things,
breaking things off with him is absolutely the right choice.
Being with a man who has enough free time to berate you must be exhausting.
Even wasting time telling him,
“You only think about yourself and never consider the other person!”
and throwing his own words back at him isn’t worth it.
P.S.
When a woman says, “Just tea, please,” I naturally see her as someone who’s being very considerate.
Some female members are fasting, while others prefer to avoid meals altogether.
