It’s been exactly a week since I signed up with Universe.

When I was actively using the site, I sent “You look lovely” to quite a few people, just like you. As I recall, though, the responses were pretty hit-or-miss. I think it only led to one or two actual offers… Personally, I felt that uploading photos with a different vibe from the ones taken by the club was more effective than sending “You look lovely.” It’s only been a week, so it might be best to give it a little more time!

“Nice” can sometimes help you discover people who were buried in the search results and whom you might otherwise have overlooked, so I wouldn’t say it’s completely ineffective. However, I think the following two approaches actually backfire: - Sending nothing but a “like” - Sending a message that feels like a template and doesn’t mention anything from my profile With these two patterns, it just comes across as though the person is sending messages indiscriminately. Since you can also exchange messages on Patro, if you find the same male member there, it might be worth trying to message him through Patro. That said, it’s rare to receive a message that actually makes me want to reply. Everyone sends more or less the same kind of message, so unless their profile really catches my attention, I honestly don’t feel inclined to respond.

Popular women can receive quite a few offers within their first week. For an average woman, it usually takes around two or three weeks to start receiving offers, although occasionally an offer may come out of nowhere several months—or even half a year—later. Some women never receive any offers at all. Personally, I don’t think sending “You’re lovely” is particularly effective. Men generally want to date women who match their preferences, so even if a woman they’re not interested in sends them a “You’re lovely,” they’ll usually just ignore it. That said, if they realize they simply hadn’t noticed her before and think, “She might actually be my type,” it can sometimes lead to an offer—but the chances seem pretty low. So, at this point, the main thing you can work on is probably how you write your comments. Also, if your photos aren’t very flattering, you could wait until your next photo session, but that may be quite a while from now. In the meantime, you might want to upload some selfies and see if they get more attention.