I’ve been getting more offers, so my schedule is starting to fill up. Should I turn down the ones with a lower allowance, or would it be better to negotiate for more?
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If I negotiate, do you think they’d usually raise it to around ¥12,000?
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Is money really the only factor you use to judge someone?
So basically, you’re saying you can date even someone you really dislike as long as they pay enough.
As for your question, if it’s someone you don’t mind passing on anyway, why not just ask and see what they say?
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To begin with, I don’t think the allowance amount has much to do with whether you should cut someone off or not.
If the allowance is too low and you’re unhappy, just lower their priority in your schedule or space out your meetings. Even if they offer a generous allowance, you may still find other things to be unhappy about, so making decisions solely based on the allowance is more trouble than it’s worth.
Between two adults, it’s not really common to formally break things off or completely cut contact. Even if you gradually drift apart, you might reconnect after a long time and hit it off again. There’s no need to deliberately end a relationship with someone whose allowance you’re unhappy with but whom you can otherwise tolerate.
That said, if you’re okay with the relationship falling apart, why not negotiate the price more assertively?
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Thanks for posting again.
You might be able to raise the amount by a few tens of thousands of yen if you negotiate. So if the papa (a male supporter) offers 8 when you’re looking for 10, I think you should negotiate by saying you’d like 2 more.
If he has money but such a dysfunctional personality that he can’t maintain an ongoing arrangement with a woman, he may go along with it because otherwise he won’t be able to date anyone.
A money-focused questioner and a dysfunctional papa (a male supporter) sound like a perfect match.
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Just say no.
It’s rare for them to negotiate and offer you more, and if you’re going to part ways anyway, there’s nothing to gain from leaving them with bad feelings toward you.
Try looking at it the other way around.
How would you feel if a papa (a male supporter) told you he’d started seeing more women and wanted to negotiate a lower allowance?
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