Some time ago, there was a question about allowances.

Just as Aya says, no matter how much you pour into her, she wouldn’t be able to survive without you. I’ll never reach that kind of mindset, but people start dreaming about it right away. They tend to say things like, “I feel bad because I think I’m messing up her sense of money.” Even though that’s not true. I say similar things to all kinds of men too, but they never really believe me, lol. Still, people like that seem to enjoy life more.

I receive more than ¥500,000 a month from one papa, and after reading the other answers, I was actually happy to realize, “He must be pretty satisfied with me.” I can definitely feel that he’s extremely attached to me. As far as my attitude toward money goes, I’m not numb to its value at all. For example, when I travel with my papa, we usually stay in suite rooms and fly business class, but I don’t take that kind of luxury for granted. I only go because my papa wants to go. I have no desire to indulge in luxury for its own sake. I’ve received and bought my share of designer items, but I don’t really want them that badly. They’re poor value for money, so I’d rather not have them. Even if I broke up with this papa and could never buy luxury goods or fly business class again, I’d be completely fine. Even if I receive ¥500,000 or ¥1 million a month from my papa, the amount I’m currently investing and managing from the money I’ve steadily saved myself is several dozen times larger. So I already feel like I could easily live without this person. I’m grateful for everything he’s done for me, but men who repeatedly engage in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are fundamentally creepy to me, so I’m not influenced by someone like that. However, my papa seems to think he’s had an enormous impact on me and that I couldn’t survive without him. He seems to see me as some kind of fragile little creature. Isn’t that arrogant?

I think the relationship you have is an ideal one as well. It’s wonderful that you can walk away at any time and return to an independent, ordinary life on the outside. Just as people can become deeply involved in romantic relationships, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) can also develop into something very deep, with a strong adult relationship (intimate) and perfect compatibility in terms of personality. When that happens, it can become an unparalleled relationship—one that surpasses even ordinary and romantic relationships. Because there is an allowance involved, it can be a world where neither person becomes bored or loses interest, as can happen in romance or marriage, and where an even stronger bond continues to grow. From the man’s perspective, if he sees her as an unparalleled woman—someone truly irreplaceable, especially with the experience that comes with age—he will likely prioritize her above everything else, not just provide an allowance. In a transactional relationship, people generally don’t become that deeply attached. Since the balance and nature of each relationship differ depending on how it begins and how deeply it develops, I think it is influenced not only by one’s ideals but also by whom one happens to meet, with time passing according to the kind of relationship each person wants. In my experience, even after many years, people’s attitudes toward money don’t change—whether it’s a long-term girlfriend or someone they’ve been with for decades. Their personalities and ways of thinking remain almost the same, and there are no major changes in physical compatibility either.

Are there really men involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) who can’t afford to pay more than ¥500,000 a month? That said, whether I’d pay that much to one person is a separate matter. For me, it would only be conceivable if I were completely satisfied with her looks, personality, and in bed; she made few demands; and she wasn’t seeing anyone else—more like the old-fashioned idea of a mistress. As for your sense of money, I think your concerns are valid, so please don’t lose sight of that perspective.

There are quite a few people who make a total of ¥500,000 from multiple arrangements, but I don’t think there are that many who receive ¥500,000 from just one person. As for how I feel about money… I guess it depends on what you use the money for.

I think there are plenty of men who can afford to pay 500,000 yen or more a month. The difficult part is finding a woman they want to keep seeing even while paying that much. Specifically, someone who can squirt and is incredibly good in bed, someone who’s unbelievably fun to talk to, or someone who acts so convincingly that you mistake it for genuine love. None of the women I’ve been seeing for several years have changed their attitude toward money. Maybe it’s because I’ve never made an offer to anyone particularly flashy.