My regular papa (a male supporter) asks, seemingly out of curiosity, about my adult relationships with other papas, as well as the hotels and restaurants I’ve gone to with them. He seems to know that I’m seeing multiple people.
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He isn’t the type to be possessive, so I’m wondering if it would be okay to talk about these things.
A: For the female members here, how do you respond when you’re asked questions like this?
B: For the male members who ask these kinds of questions, what are you feeling or thinking when you do so?
C: Is it okay to talk openly about the details? From what I’ve read, it often seems that sharing such information doesn’t have a positive effect on the relationship with your papa.
When I asked him directly, he said that hearing about my adult relationships with other papas—especially sexual encounters with older men—excites him. As for the hotels and restaurants, he apparently wants to use them as references for places he might visit in the future.
Sorry for the rather naive question, but I’d really appreciate your answers.
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Start with the safest, least attractive examples and ease them in while gauging his reaction.
In other words, begin with examples that are clearly inferior to that papa (older, less skilled, etc.) and introduce them little by little.
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If he’s the kind of man who asks, it might be okay to answer.
Some people naturally ask about everything, while others don’t.
Just be careful, because there are two possibilities: he may feel comfortable with you and be able to talk about anything, or he may simply not like you that much, so he feels free to ask anything. It’s best to judge the situation and gradually feel things out.
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Men say they want to hear about it, but then get jealous, so it’s probably best to be tactful about that part. You can say you’re seeing multiple people, but avoid sharing the specific details.
Unless he’s a truly understanding papa (a male supporter) like Fuu, he might not be able to handle it.
I think it may be Fuu’s particular kink to hear about my boyfriend—or my experiences with other papas—and get turned on by it, especially since he’s said he supports me having a boyfriend and seeing other papas.
Whenever we have conversations like that, I get really fired up in bed. I’m rock hard! The thrill of the forbidden is the best!
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There’s a big difference between merely suspecting that he’s seeing multiple people and actually being told that he is.
If your papa (a male supporter) is someone you like, there’s really no need to bring it up yourself.
He might start imagining the details, feel uncomfortable, and stop asking you to meet.
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I often ask similar questions during pillow talk.
I simply find it interesting to hear what kinds of things they do with other people.
If what they tell me is interesting, I just think, “Huh, good to know.”
It’s basically just something to talk about.
Being open about it has never harmed the relationship.
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When it comes to unusual preferences, everyone has their own perspective, so it’s hard to say what the “right” approach is.
Since you don’t know what might be a dealbreaker, it may be best to bring things up gradually, like clearing landmines, and move the conversation forward while watching their reaction.
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Speaking strictly as my personal opinion from the man’s perspective:
> It’s understandable that he wants to ask about the hotels and restaurants so he can use them himself in the future.
But:
> He apparently gets excited when hearing about the adult details, especially sex with elderly men.
I think you’d be better off avoiding someone like that.
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