For women in the “Block” or “Platinum” categories who are reasonably attractive, what makes you think, “There won’t be a next time—I’m done after this one meeting”? I’m not talking about obvious issues like being overbearing or lacking common sense.

Whether you align with the direction he’s looking for and meet the needs of the papa (a male supporter) who’s spending money on this kind of relationship. Sex is my top priority, so how enjoyable things are in bed matters to me. I won’t continue seeing someone who seems reluctant during intimacy, barely responds or doesn’t seem to enjoy it, puts in no effort, obviously rushes things, yet has plenty to say about the allowance; or who smells bad, is unhygienic, constantly makes negative comments, or complains a lot. On the other hand, I want to keep meeting women who look great and have nice figures, but also genuinely enjoy sex, are proactive, and make an effort. To brag a little, I currently have so many women in monthly arrangements that it’s almost a problem. I’m trying to coordinate the schedules of all the women who say they want to see me again—it’s a happy dilemma, lol. Fuu puts sex first, but other papas may prioritize a romantic feeling or care about things like a woman’s manners when going out to eat. Every papa has different needs, so observe yours carefully and try to make him happy.

That’s probably true for most women. Very few people want to meet a second or even a fourth time—or rather, only a select few do… Even if the overall balance is good, she may still be boring. If she’s too perfect, she can seem like a professional, and if she tries too hard or puts on too much of an act, it just feels pointless… If she can be herself and show a wide range of genuinely expressive emotions—fun, ever-changing expressions you’d rarely get to see in her everyday life—you’ll become completely captivated. Very few women can even show their genuine anger as part of the full range of emotions… When you click that well, the trust between you deepens, which can even lead to discovering how compatible you are physically. I think that kind of compatibility is something that comes naturally. It’s extremely rare… As long as you’re worried that the other person might cut things off, you can never truly let your guard down. So I think it’s also important to give the other person a sense of security and trust. That means being able to make a decision, but in a club setting, people don’t easily take what you say at face value. You have to be able to communicate that you genuinely mean it… Being able to show your true self is probably impossible without feeling secure…

By far, the most common issue is that the physical chemistry just isn’t there. Women on the black list may look amazing and be incredibly fun to date, but I get the impression that many of them aren’t very enthusiastic about sex. When that happens, it either ends after one time or continues as dinner only (no intimacy).

She’s boring to talk to and keeps too many secrets. She smells down there. She just lies there and does nothing. With women I’ve been seeing for over four years, we can become more like friends.

Personally, things usually end after one meeting—not because I think, “We did it once, and that’s enough,” but because I don’t feel like seeing a woman again if I wasn’t particularly impressed and found her only so-so. In other words, with someone things end after one meeting, I wasn’t even interested enough to think, “One time is enough.” I simply don’t feel inclined to date a woman who is only average-looking, even if I’m giving her an allowance. Maybe the conversation wasn’t interesting, the sex wasn’t particularly good, or she wasn’t very intelligent. There could be many reasons, and it’s not necessarily just one. I think whether a relationship continues comes down to the overall impression. Most women are good-natured, so if a man decides there won’t be a next time, I think it’s best to hope for an offer from another man who’s a better match. Also, when you think someone seems promising, it’s important to observe him carefully and make a real effort to become someone he’ll absolutely love. There are plenty of rivals for both men and women in dating clubs. The woman I entered into a monthly arrangement with told me that when she first met me, she assumed there wouldn’t be a next time this time either. The reason I went against my usual policy and made it a monthly arrangement was that she often returned the allowance, saying she didn’t need it that day. I eventually got tired of repeatedly going back and forth over the allowance.