According to the club’s introduction message, she’s also open to an adult relationship (intimate) after meeting around three times.
With that in mind, would it be smarter to discuss only the terms for a dinner date (no intimacy) at the first meeting, and then confirm the terms again when I bring up an adult relationship?
I’d especially appreciate women’s opinions. Would a woman who’s considering an adult relationship after the third date or later be put off if I also discussed those terms at the first meeting?
Personally, once we’ve started seeing each other—after the second date—I’d prefer to avoid awkward discussions that feel like negotiating terms and simply enjoy our dates.
I’d appreciate any advice.
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Personally, on a first meeting, I might be able to discuss those things if there were absolutely no one around. But that kind of setting is hard to find— even in a private room at a restaurant, an employee could be right outside—so I’d rather avoid talking about money too much.
Of course, it depends on the woman, but why not meet a few times for dinner only (no intimacy) and, taking the club’s advice, invite her to a hotel on the third or fourth meeting?
Then, after you’ve had an adult relationship (intimate), giving her a more generous (well-paying) allowance than the going rate will probably increase the chances of seeing her again. In my experience, the more popular papas—or rather, the ones women genuinely like—don’t tend to bring up very explicit money talk.
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If it were me, I might be able to have that kind of conversation the first time if there was absolutely no one around. But an environment like that is hard to find—even in a private room at a restaurant, there could be staff right outside—so I’d rather not talk about money too much.
Of course, it depends on the woman. For now, why not meet a few times for dinner only (no intimacy), then, taking the club’s advice, invite her to a hotel on the third or fourth meeting?
Afterward, if you give her an allowance higher than the going rate, I think she’ll be more likely to see you again. In my experience, the papas who are popular—or rather, genuinely liked by women—don’t tend to bring up overly blunt money talk very often.
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I consider the first meeting to last until we’ve had an adult relationship once, and anything after that to be an ongoing arrangement.
Depending on how the adult relationship goes, I may decide not to meet again or reconsider the terms—such as the time involved, allowance, and frequency of meetings.
In a B1 arrangement, I focus on making sure they’ll agree to meet a second time, so I don’t discuss the adult relationship much at first.
If they agree to meet a second time, I take that as a sign they’re interested, and then I discuss the terms of the adult relationship.
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With B1-type women, I don’t initiate discussions about an adult relationship (intimate), nor do I bring up the allowance.
Sometimes things naturally progress to an adult relationship as the mood picks up, while in other cases, the woman brings up moving toward an adult relationship during dinner.
In both situations, we’ve usually met several times and built some level of trust, so things progress without discussing the allowance.
With women who lean more toward type A, bringing up an adult relationship could come across as pressuring them, so I think you need to be very patient and give them plenty of space.
Men don’t enjoy conversations focused only on allowances and money, and women don’t enjoy being repeatedly pressed about an adult relationship either. It’s important to find the right balance. With B-type women, I also think it’s possible to build a better, more natural relationship based on trust—sometimes without even having to discuss those things.
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What someone thinks depends on the person, the circumstances, and who they’re dealing with, so I don’t think there’s any one right answer.
If you want to know the best approach, the best thing to do is decide how to proceed while watching the other person’s reaction.
I think it’s important not to forget that the other person is an individual with their own personality, too.
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I’m answering from the man’s perspective.
I’ve made offers to several B1-type women, and in every case, I confirmed the allowance that would apply if things developed into a dinner date arrangement after the first meeting. In my experience, this has never caused any problems or prevented things from progressing to a second meeting or beyond.
I’m not negotiating an adult relationship (intimate) at the first meeting—I’m simply deciding the allowance in case the relationship develops that way.
Suppose you go on several dinner dates, hit it off, and then decide to take things further, only to end things because your expectations regarding the allowance don’t match. Wouldn’t that be a waste?
Of course, if you’re happy just enjoying dinner dates and have no complaints, then that’s perfectly fine too.
In my own case, I’m planning to take things further next month with someone I’ve had three dinner dates with. We also agreed on the allowance that would apply if things developed further, during our very first dinner.
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