If I work on both my appearance and my inner self, do you think I’ll be able to date a good man?
I only graduated from high school and have a strong inferiority complex about my education. I’ve tried making advances toward men who graduated from college, but I ended up getting rejected—perhaps they saw through something about me.
I want to work on myself and become a better woman.
In your case, you don’t seem to be the type men naturally flock to, so you’ll probably have a hard time unless you actively put yourself out there and look for opportunities to meet people.
Don’t get discouraged just because you were rejected once. If you have a certain type of man you want to be with, you may just have to keep trying one after another. Everyone has different preferences, and so does everyone’s definition of an “ideal woman.”
Instead of setting a vague goal like “improving yourself,” focus on specific things—improving your skin, losing weight, getting better at makeup, and so on—and keep working at it.
A college degree doesn’t automatically make someone a good man, either, so stay flexible in your thinking and do your best.
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If your educational background complex is really bothering you that much, why not aim for college now? You could have your papa (a male supporter) help with tuition.
That said, there are plenty of people without college degrees who are living fulfilling lives. Whether it’s languages, cooking, traveling, or gaming, finding something you love and dedicating yourself to it can build confidence and make you more attractive.
I’m not good at planning dates, so I really respect people who know about newly opened theme parks, hidden-gem restaurants, and places like that.
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As long as you’re saying, “I want to become a classy woman,” you probably won’t become one.
You need the resolve to say, “I will become a classy woman—no matter what.”
That applies to everything in life.
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What makes someone a “good woman” or “good man” varies from person to person. So if you’re the kind of woman your ideal man considers a good woman, you may be more likely to develop a romantic relationship with him.
I think a college degree is really only useful for landing a job through Japan’s mass new-graduate hiring system or for pursuing further education. Besides, there are all kinds of colleges and universities.
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