Nice to meet you.

I’d like to ask for advice about the quality of the men I’ve been meeting. Recently, I’ve been registered with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) apps and relationship clubs other than Universe, where I meet men. (I used to be a Universe member, which is how I learned about this site.) However, I often find the men’s behavior really unacceptable. For example: - They’re late—suddenly saying on the day that they’ll be 30 minutes late, or messaging right at the meeting time to say, “I’m going to be 15 minutes late.” - They act overly arrogant. - Some don’t even take care of things like bad breath. - They’re either far too familiar with a woman they’ve just met or flatter her excessively—they’re simply bad at interacting with women. - They’re poor listeners, yet become passionate and start speaking rapidly when it’s their turn to talk. Their communication is just bizarre. I had imagined that these clubs would attract mature, older men with a calm, appealing presence, so I’ve been shocked by the gap between that image and reality. Even if the men I’ve met were making an incredible amount of money, I honestly wonder whether I could respect them as people… You might wonder what I’m like myself, but I’ve received eight offers in one month from other clubs, so I don’t think I’m particularly undesirable. I’ve never been late or canceled at the last minute, and I’ve recently found one man who could be considered a monthly arrangement. For context, I joined because I wanted to meet wonderful men and grow as a person. The self-help and business books I often read say that people who behave as described above are best avoided. So I’m frustrated because it seems that the successful people I meet in real life don’t necessarily follow those principles. I’d love to hear everyone’s opinions. Thank you.