I’ll be starting university in the spring, and I’m considering papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to earn money for orthodontic treatment, which I’d like to pay for myself. I have no experience with that kind of thing, and even while getting started with papa-katsu, I only want to keep things platonic. Is it possible to do papa-katsu through a dating agency with dinner-only (no intimacy) arrangements?
I know I’m being overly ambitious since I’m not particularly cute, but I’d really appreciate advice from anyone knowledgeable about this.
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Thank you for your question! I’m Yuki Higashino from the Umeda branch of Universe Club, and I’ll be answering you.
If we’re choosing between “possible” and “impossible,” I’d say it is possible, but…
Unless you have qualities that make a papa (a male supporter) think, “I’d like to date her even without an adult relationship (intimate),” it will probably be close to impossible.
In fact, many women registered with the club are attractive and open to adult relationships (intimate). If you’re not confident about your looks, why not develop other qualities you can use to stand out?
If you can’t say, “This is what I’m good at,” or “I think this quality of mine suits papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan),” you may not even pass the screening…!
We’d be delighted if we have the chance to meet you at your registration interview♪
We look forward to hearing from you.
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When you’re taking an interview for a job or something similar, an important point is not to show off half-baked knowledge.
“Wholesome” is a well-known term in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), isn’t it?
Men who want to meet without an adult relationship (intimate) especially dislike jaded women who use terms like that.
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Does “keeping it wholesome” mean no adult relationship (intimate)?
Fuu, an expert in keeping things wholesome while still doing adult relationships (intimate), will answer, lol.
Unless you’re cute, have a good figure, or give off a vibe that appeals to men, doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) without intimacy is going to be extremely difficult. You’ll probably receive few, if any, offers.
I recommend going in fully aware that offers may be nonexistent or scarce. At the same time, consider registering for paid social drinking, and if that doesn’t work out, try papa-katsu through social media or a dating app. If that still doesn’t work, be prepared to give up on papa-katsu altogether.
That said, you won’t know until you register, so start by going to the club interview.
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An experienced person is here to give you some advice.
1. Find three dinner-only papas aged 70 or older.
2. Meet each of them twice a month, with an allowance of at least ¥10,000 per meeting.
If you earn ¥60,000–¥100,000 a month this way, you should be able to cover your monthly orthodontic payments.
Non-intimate papas aged 60 or younger may not stick around, so aim for older men whenever possible. That’s the key.
It may be hard for you, as someone starting university this spring, to believe, but men in their 50s and 60s are still very much in their prime.
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It’s possible to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with dinner only (no intimacy).
Whether it works out, whether you receive the allowance you’re hoping for, and whether you meet a good man are separate matters, of course.
Men generally have more demand for arrangements that involve more than just dinner. With dinner only, you may not get the results you expect—or you might do well if even one man takes a liking to you.
Why not start by taking action and adjusting as you go?
Once you’re a university student, there’s no single “right answer” to your choices from the outset. All you can do is act and find ways to make your own choices turn out right.
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