I’m the PJ who caused some trouble over the allowance issue.

You don’t need to lie, but you don’t have to tell them 100% of the truth either. Why not just share the parts that work in your favor? Personally, I feel that in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you only need to disclose about 10 or 20% of the relevant information. The other person will interpret the rest in whatever way suits them. You don’t have to say you have a boyfriend. Just explain that you’re unable to meet on weekday evenings due to “personal circumstances.” If they ask further, you could keep it vague by saying it’s due to family circumstances or where you live. If you tell them everything and make demands like, “Please love me despite all this,” or “Please pay a premium for me despite all this,” it may come across that way. If you’re attractive, kind-hearted, or have other good qualities, you’re only lowering your own value. If you can’t meet the man’s needs, it’s only natural that you won’t receive any offers. Why not try putting yourself in the other person’s shoes?

Could it be that you’re telling your papas that you live with someone? At least while they’re with you, papas probably see it as a romantic relationship. Men tend to have an instinctive liking for the thrill of the chase, so they don’t appreciate being treated like clients at a sex-work establishment—letting them have access to you in exchange for an allowance. The fact that you have fairly strict restrictions on weekday evenings and weekends can be difficult for them, too. In this case, if you say your family imposes a strict curfew, your standing in their eyes may actually improve. Your current papa seems like a well-rounded person who knows how to maintain healthy boundaries. Please value him. If you can at least check LINE, you should do so right away. How would you feel if the situation were reversed? If your boyfriend or a friend did to you what you’re doing to your papa, how would you feel? Or do you simply have no feelings at all?

I don’t think the problem is that you compromised. The problem is that you’re in an arrangement you’re not truly comfortable with. If you really feel that you’re making your current papa (a male supporter) accommodate your schedule and putting him out, why not reply promptly when he messages you about your next date? Everyone makes compromises to some extent. I think things aren’t working because you’re being selfish without reflecting on your own behavior.