On the last day of the three-day weekend, we had dinner and then went to a love hotel.
This was our third adult relationship, so we had both started to feel comfortable with each other.
I felt reassured because he always used condoms, since I’m afraid of pregnancy and STIs. But suddenly he said, “If it’s your backside, it’s okay to finish inside, right?” and tried to put his large penis inside me.
I had never had anything inserted there and never imagined he would do something like that, so I was shocked. I told him, “I don’t want it there, so stop!” and tried to get away, but I couldn’t overpower him, and he forced it inside me. When I said, “It hurts, so stop,” he replied, “It feels good because it’s so tight, but honestly, it feels much better inside the vagina.”
I got dressed immediately and took a taxi home. When I checked my underwear, I saw that I was bleeding.
I was embarrassed, but I went to both a gynecologist and a proctologist after work, just to be safe.
The doctor told me that STIs can still be transmitted even through anal penetration.
I thought he was a gentle, nice person, but does he simply like anal sex?
Maybe he really wanted to have sex without a condom, but was afraid of pregnancy and STIs—and since it’s prohibited at the club, perhaps he wanted to do it that way instead? I don’t know what he really intended, but I still haven’t recovered from the shock.
Even when I’m asleep, I wake up from nightmares. I woke up again today, which is why I’m asking this question.
Have any female members had a similar experience?
For the male members, are there many men who want anal sex?
It hurt so much that I cried, and I never imagined he would do something like that to me. I feel extremely sad.
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The club’s role is simply to facilitate adult relationships, so it doesn’t prohibit having unprotected sex.
I always use condoms because I’m worried about STIs and don’t want to hurt a woman by causing an unwanted pregnancy.
Even with my ex-wife, we used condoms at first. Once we agreed that we would get married if she became pregnant, we had unprotected sex using withdrawal.
What matters is mutual consent.
I feel the same applies to anal sex.
As for anal sex, SOD’s website explains that careful preparation is necessary, including cleansing the anus and thoroughly loosening it with lubricant.
I think it’s fair to say that inserting it without any preparation is sexual violence.
There are serious STI risks as well, considering that 70% of new HIV infections occur through sex between men and that genital warts can develop in the anus.
As advice for the future, I recommend casually asking about the other person’s awareness of STIs.
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I’ve never put anything in someone’s ass, but I’ve had things put in mine. I like being penetrated, but I’m not interested in being the one doing it.
That guy seriously pisses me off. He should’ve treated your ass with care. Causing bleeding is absolutely unacceptable.
Anal penetration is actually pretty difficult. It’s a collaborative process to begin with. Forcing it or doing it suddenly is completely out of line. Unbelievable.
Even for someone like me who’s okay with anal, having something forced in suddenly would be traumatic.
I want to force a huge dildo without any lube into his ass and make it explode.
That was truly awful for you…
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That must have been painful. Your stomach may be loose for a little while, so please take care of yourself—and your bottom.
Also, please report it to the staff.
There seem to be several men who are into bottoms. During intimacy, they may lick or poke around the anus to see whether they can insert something, so please be careful.
Even if he ejaculated on your bottom, sexually transmitted infections can still spread, and the risk of HIV is also higher.
Don’t meet that man again, and ignore his LINE messages. If he starts making threats, you can tell him that you’ll report him to the staff.
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The anus is more prone to bleeding, so it’s easier to contract an STI that way than vaginally. Someone who does it once will keep doing it.
It’s something that requires an additional fee, so doing it without permission is absolutely unacceptable.
If you went to the hospital, get a medical certificate. If they refuse to compensate you, go to the police. This isn’t the time to just suffer in silence.
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Cases like this are unacceptable regardless of gender.
Let me explain why.
No definitive conclusion can be reached without discussing the details with the police or an attorney, but this appears likely to constitute a criminal offense.
Apparently, suddenly engaging in an act that was not consented to during sexual activity that has already begun may also constitute the crime of non-consensual sexual intercourse. Depending on the details, it may simply be considered assault.
The offense of non-consensual sexual intercourse expanded and clarified the scope of punishment for what were previously called rape and forcible sexual intercourse. Non-consensual anal intercourse is now also subject to punishment.
Since you were injured as well, this would be non-consensual sexual intercourse resulting in injury, which is a serious offense.
Even if the anal intercourse in this case does not qualify as non-consensual sexual intercourse, you were injured as a result of an act you did not consent to, so it would likely constitute bodily injury.
To female members who have experienced similar conduct, I recommend reporting the incident to the police, consulting an attorney about seeking civil damages as a victim of a criminal offense, and getting assistance with filing a police report or criminal complaint.
Of course, it is an embarrassing matter, so choosing to do nothing is also an option.
There may also be male members who engage in anal intercourse, but they should have the woman’s consent. In other words, without consent, it becomes a matter for the police.
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Oh no, that sounds like a terrible experience.
The anus is an opening for passing stool and gas. Suppositories are sometimes inserted there too, and there’s even an anecdote that actress Yoko Akino once said on Tetsuko’s Room—or some other TV show—that when she had a fever from a cold, she would put a fever-reducing green onion into her anus. Once you start imagining a feverish famous actress inserting the kind of green onion you’d see in Sazae-san’s shopping bag, it becomes hard to take in anything else she said. In any case, what happened to you is definitely not normal.
That said, some people do enjoy it as a type of play. I’ve heard stories of customers at delivery-based adult services suddenly doing it without warning, and some places even list an “anal option” for ¥10,000 on their price menu. I’ve also met a woman at a delivery-based adult service in Osaka who said that things progressed to the point where she couldn’t refuse sex, but since she wanted to give her virginity to someone she loved, she chose that instead.
But putting all that aside, forcing it on a woman who clearly doesn’t want it is completely unacceptable. Isn’t that simply non-consensual sexual intercourse? It’s an act of violence serious enough to cause bleeding. And the fact that he talked about how it felt afterward instead of apologizing is seriously disturbing. Maybe he did it to set the stage for having unprotected sex, but it’s absolutely beyond the pale.
First, contact the club. Even if some time has passed, that’s fine. The first few meetings—up to around the fifth—are when someone’s true nature tends to show, so the fact that you met him several times and then experienced this is important information. The way you present it matters, but sharing the facts with the club can help improve the quality of its male members.
After that, you should avoid seeing him again. Simply ignore him rather than blocking him; that’s the smartest approach. If he turns out to be an even more dangerous person, blocking him would make it impossible to detect what he does next. You may feel like getting revenge, but I wouldn’t recommend it, since it will only make things more complicated. Turning it into a legal case can also be difficult to prove and a hassle, so I’d advise against that as well. Stupidity, bad behavior, and bad luck are contagious, so the best thing is to get away.
It was an awful experience, but I think you simply drew one of the rare bad cards. Move on as quickly as you can. This isn’t something that normally happens, so don’t let it put you off—keep looking for someone decent.
Taro
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