He really liked me from the start, and our first date was incredibly luxurious. He told me he wanted to see me and would even drive over right away to meet me.
Since December would be busy with the year-end season, he planned ahead and arranged dates every week. He seemed almost obsessed with me, saying I was his and his alone, but…
After our third date the other day, I started to feel like he wasn’t as interested in me anymore. He said something came up, and our dates were cut in half.
He told me that his family might get suspicious, so he can’t contact me anywhere except through work. He says things like he loves me and that I’m his girlfriend, but… I can’t help wondering if he’s found someone more attractive.
We also have a trip planned, but I’m starting to feel like it may fall through.
Should I prepare myself for him to drift away? I don’t even know his contact information in the first place. He told me his full name and the name of his company, but we still communicate through the site.
Maybe he’s gotten bored, or found someone better…
Should I prepare myself to say goodbye?
They’re probably losing interest, so I think you should continue seeing them while preparing for the day they may end things by accepting offers from other papas as well.
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I’m new to dating clubs myself, and I was swept up after meeting you at first. But after making another offer and meeting another nice woman, I think my interest in you has probably faded.
As you predicted, the trip will likely fall through.
You should probably look for another papa. She may see you as someone to keep on the back burner too, but there’s no need to cut her off yourself—just keep her as an option.
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It’s pretty common for things to be reassessed around the third meeting, but they do seem like a fairly straightforward person.
They probably went in pretty aggressively, but didn’t get the response they were hoping for and decided to move on. If they let their guard down because the other person seemed really interested, that was a miscalculation.
Even if the number of meetings has been reduced, you’re still seeing each other, so I don’t think you’ve been cut from the team. You’ve just lost your spot as a starting candidate.
A comeback isn’t impossible, but I think it would be difficult without something pretty significant happening. You might be dropped if they find a new favorite and things work out, but as you’ve experienced yourself, these arrangements don’t always go smoothly. So there’s a chance you may actually remain in that position for quite a while.
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