Is using my circumstances as an excuse for doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
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I’ll be honest.
I do some work that’s kind of like being in entertainment, and I’d say I’m fairly average-looking.
Here’s my current situation—this is a bit of my personal story.
My family has already fallen apart. I receive no financial support at all from either of my parents, and I’m only able to stay at my family home while working part-time.
My older brother is already beyond help—he developed an addiction. I also intend to support my parents, so I need money.
Realistically, I’m considering appearing in adult videos, becoming a hostess, or becoming someone’s mistress.
I’m leaving out my age and other details because I don’t want to be identified.
Everything I’ve written is true.
If you’re relying on looks alone, I don’t think you’ll do well either as a hostess or as a mistress.
When someone keeps talking about their personal problems and negative experiences, I can’t help feeling that being around them might bring down my own luck, so I’d rather not meet you.
To be honest, for women, what matters is not just their looks, but what else they bring to the table.
It’s the same with men, isn’t it? Having money can’t be the only thing that matters.
You mention appearing in adult videos, but these days free copies are circulating online on the very day they’re released, so the industry itself is struggling.
In other words, it’s no longer an era when you can make money from adult videos alone.
However, if you can appear for a popular production company, you can gain far more followers than an underground idol would, and become well-known.
If you view it as a tool for gaining fame, it still has value for women.
There are also women who want to sleep with a skilled male performer.
Before long, I feel it may become just like gravure idols appearing in magazines and being paid next to nothing.
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The easiest option is to abandon your family. That would dramatically reduce the amount of money you need and improve your quality of life.
AV is already a red ocean, so it’s not very profitable these days. That said, the top tier can still make good money, so it might be worth trying if you don’t mind having a permanent digital footprint. But I think it’s essential to join a reasonably influential agency rather than going the amateur route.
The nightlife industry is tough in its own way, too. You should decide whether you’re just going with the flow or aiming for the top. If you’re not aiming high, it’s easier, but the results will be modest as well.
With a dating club, you might get lucky and land a generous client, but if you’re unlucky, that’s the end of it. The number of generous clients you get = the number of offers × your generous-client rate, so it’s a good idea to think about how to increase the number of offers from generous clients. There are general guidelines for creating a dating-club-friendly profile, but those apply to regular clients as well. If you’re specifically targeting generous clients, you may need to come up with your own strategy. At Universe, at the very least, getting the staff member who interviews you on your side could lead to good results. There was one woman who hid her true nature, made a great impression at the interview, and put together an effective profile—resulting in a nonstop stream of offers and an incredibly profitable situation.
Taro
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When you’re mentally struggling, it’s easy to fall into extreme thinking—“This is my only option.”
And in most cases, it doesn’t work out, which only makes you feel worse.
That said, telling the person who asked this question to “get a proper job” would honestly be too harsh. It would be better to start with a daytime part-time job and work nights as a hostess.
The reason is that, unless they’re an exclusive performer, sexy entertainers have unstable incomes—and being a mistress is even less stable.
Rather than aiming for some distant goal or a sudden reversal of your fortunes, take a close look at where you are and start with one small, reliable step nearby.
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I always hear you up to that point, but are you still not making any progress beyond that?
You can’t move on because you’re too slow to take action!
Marika
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If you feel you need to, try papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as one possible option—whether you see it as a reason or an excuse.
Sometimes, you won’t know what suits you or what will actually help you until you try it.
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I’m Nichigetsu Arata, a male member.
It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot with your parents and older brother. And you also want to support them financially.
This isn’t an excuse. I think you simply considered your circumstances and the resources available to you, then decided what seemed like the best option.
Each choice has different advantages, disadvantages, and risks, so it may be important to think things through carefully and decide what you will and won’t do.
And if you really don’t want to do any of it, I think you also have the option of walking away from everything and escaping.
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