The clubs I go to in Ginza also seem to attract almost the same kind of people—mostly business owners.
That said, I hardly ever talk about work. If you’re my type, fulfill my need for validation, and satisfy me in an adult relationship (intimate), I’ll treat you kindly and make you feel valued.
If you’re okay with a not-so-high allowance, send me a reverse offer through the club.
Since you’re listening with such a bored expression, the conversation will probably end up heading in an even more boring direction.
In the end, maybe any conversation with someone you’re incompatible with feels boring. Once you decide from the outset that someone is boring, you start collecting evidence to support it: “This part is boring, that part is boring, and even when the conversation develops, it’s still boring.” At that point, it really will be boring.
If you view it purely as a service business, then the proper approach would be to listen with a friendly smile no matter what kind of customer comes in, make them feel comfortable talking, understand their needs, set as high a price as possible, and have them purchase your services.
From that perspective, even if someone is incompatible with you, you dislike their appearance, can’t stand their smell, is overbearing, has a way of speaking you dislike, or has certain traits associated with past bad experiences, you would still meet them without prejudice as a first-time customer and adjust as you go. Of course, you have the right to choose your customers, so it’s perfectly fine to turn someone down regardless of the potential earnings simply because you don’t like their appearance.
I think one of the good things about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is that women have the right to refuse as well.
Even in a purely commercial service job, you’re allowed to turn customers down, so in papa-katsu, you should be even freer to say no.
I don’t know how freely hostesses in Ginza can refuse customers, but they probably can keep more distance from them than in papa-katsu.
I think you should feel free to make your own choices.
There are all kinds of men out there, so I hope you find someone soon who’s a great conversationalist and simply enjoyable to be around.
If having good conversation matters more to you than the allowance, you might want to mention that in your profile. You may then receive more offers from men who are confident in their conversational skills.
Exactly.
With that mindset, you may not feel much gratitude or appreciation for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or the allowance.
It also feels a bit like asking which came first—the chicken or the egg.
If the woman’s conversation is boring, the man ends up talking about work. If neither of them is having a good time, they won’t feel especially kind or important to each other.
If you’re a woman registered with a dating club, I think it’s entirely possible to be treated kindly and made to feel valued by everyone.
And if you want something from the other person, I believe you should first start by giving that yourself—that’s how things work in any relationship.
