Do you ever think about someone you’ve broken up with and wonder how they’re doing?

I’m with Mac-san on this one! I do think about someone after we’ve broken up. But that’s about as far as it goes for me. Have any of you ever sent money to someone after breaking up? ↑ I haven’t. I’ve learned that some men can tell someone they love them and go see them even when they don’t actually like them. ↑ I can’t do that, and I’ve never gone to see someone under those circumstances. Unless your feelings are strong, you wouldn’t turn them into a tangible gesture. The man who sent the money must have had some kind of feelings too, and I think he wanted to express those feelings in a concrete way. I believe those feelings were “love.” Love isn’t something you expect anything in return for. Even after the relationship ended, he was still thinking about her—I believe he still loves her now. That said, I don’t think it necessarily means he wants to get back together. Rather, I think it’s better to see it as the relationship entering a new phase. I think you should send a “Thank you.”

There are people like that. It’s not so much that I still love or have feelings for them. It’s more like: “I really did like you and love you back then. Please don’t misunderstand that, and please treasure the memories we shared.” I worry it might be taken as lingering feelings or attachment, but if I don’t do anything, nothing gets conveyed. I’ve been this way since before I started seeing women through the club. I’m the same with my ex-wife. I haven’t had private intimate relationships with that many women, but I’ll give them something from time to time—a gift, sometimes money, sometimes an item. I’ve even given paintings worth around a million yen. Part of me feels, “I told you I liked you and loved you, but I’m sorry I couldn’t stay with you until the end.” But putting those feelings front and center would be incredibly inconsiderate to the other person, so I keep that part hidden. The closest thing would be wanting to confirm, “I haven’t forgotten you.” That’s what I’m trying to convey. So the amount doesn’t really matter to me. It’s a delicate balance. I’m careful not to come across like a stalker. Even after I started club activities, there have been a few women like that—not many—and I’ve sent them LINE gifts or other harmless presents for their birthdays. I don’t know whether the questioner’s former papa (a male supporter) feels the same way I do, but there are people like me.

It’s difficult to tell what truly proves that someone loves you, because it depends on the nature of the relationship. Especially when it comes to money, as you mentioned, I don’t think it’s easy to judge. For example, you can’t simply compare a company president with annual sales of one billion yen casually spending three million yen in a single night on his favorite hostess’s birthday with an average guy earning four million yen a year spending 1,500 yen on ingredients to bake a low-sugar homemade cake for his girlfriend, who doesn’t like sweets. What matters isn’t how much money is involved, but the feelings behind his actions. So, the fact that he sends you money could mean that he loves you—but I don’t think you can say that with 100% certainty.

I think women can tell someone they like them and go see them even when they don’t actually like that person. But I can’t tell someone I like them if I don’t, nor can I go see them—or even be in the same space with them.