I’m a male member—well, sort of a farmer, anyway.
In other words, I’m what you’d call bisexual.
No, seriously… I’m sorry, but this question isn’t the only one where I find myself thinking, “What’s the point of asking that?” Quite a few questions come across that way to me. This is one of them, too. Of course, that’s just my personal opinion.
There was another question about how annoying LINE emojis are, and a female member gave an answer along the lines of, “If you really liked that papa, wouldn’t something like that bother you?” I thought that was spot-on.
Isn’t this question the same?
If it were me, and I happened to find a long-term female member, even if she told me one day, “Actually, I…” I’d probably just say, “Oh, I see,” and leave it at that.
The person asking this question was told by her papa that he was bisexual, but she couldn’t accept it. She didn’t like him enough for it to be something she could accept, and they hadn’t built a relationship of trust.
That’s all there is to it.
I’m really overstepping here, but even if detailed data were somehow disclosed—though it never would be—about how many bisexual male members there are at UC, or how many male members each branch has and how many of them are bisexual, would the person asking this question actually gain anything from it? Do you just want reassurance?
He opened up to you, and you ended things because you were shocked and afraid of STIs. That’s perfectly fine. You followed your own feelings and intuition and made your decision.
There is just one thing I’d like to say: The fact that you asked this question means you still aren’t prepared to fully accept and take responsibility for your own judgment, your actions based on it, and everything that results from them. That’s why you ended up asking this kind of question.
Thinking for yourself—or following your inner voice—then making your own decisions and actions, and accepting and taking full responsibility for all the consequences: that’s what being an adult means.
I hope you continue to have good experiences.
I’m occasionally at a swingers’ club.
Once, after having sex with a woman I’d brought there, a man came up to me and said with a completely straight face, “Thank you for today. If you’d like, I’d be happy to return the favor by going down on you. What do you think?”
I wasn’t interested, so I firmly declined. He found my reaction amusing, and ever since then, whenever we run into each other, he teases me by asking, “Would you let me go down on you today?”
You may naturally feel uncomfortable or reject someone’s preferences when they’re unlike your own, since it’s hard to empathize with them. But even if you can’t empathize, you can still understand. Rather than trying to make yourself align with someone else, accept the diversity of people’s inner worlds while maintaining your own emotional distance.
Thanks for the question. Maezawa here, answering as well.
There used to be trans women registered too, and in Tokyo they did receive offers, so although they’re a very small minority, I think there are men who are interested in that as well.
(I don’t think they received any offers at all in rural areas, though.)
You seem to be focusing only on men, but from what I’ve seen, a higher percentage of women seem to be capable of being attracted to other women as well.
Even without having had that experience, many women may be open to trying it if the opportunity arose. Others may actually have feelings for a woman of the same sex but remain just friends.
Is being afraid of sexually transmitted infections from gay people based on outdated knowledge held by people in their 40s and older?
