In the past, I had someone deliberately remove the condom during an adult relationship. If I only noticed afterward, I feel I should have reported it to the club and asked him to cover the cost of emergency contraception. What do female members do in situations like this?

Maezawa here as well. > I think I should have reported it to the club and asked him to cover the cost of the morning-after pill at the same time. It’s absolutely horrible that he did something like that without your consent, catching you off guard. Please do contact the club. When they offer him another woman, they can also warn her that they’ve received a report like this—though I’m concerned they may phrase it too gently for the message to fully get across. If similar reports have come from other women as well, he could even be permanently banned from the club. As for compensation, one option is to have him pay not only for the morning-after pill, but also an amount for emotional distress on the spot. Since he would only be able to pay what he has on hand, it would be considerably less than the damages you might receive by winning a lawsuit. However, it does have the advantage of resolving things without escalating the situation, so it may be effective if you’d prefer to avoid making matters worse. In court, I imagine you could claim around two million yen… Incidentally, even if you simply file a civil lawsuit, your chances of winning decrease if he denies everything. One approach would be to go to the police first and file a report stating that you were raped. That would initiate a criminal investigation. Naturally, any bodily fluids remaining in your body could be collected at a hospital and used as evidence. As for rape—now legally referred to as forcible sexual intercourse—I think it would be difficult to establish the charge. Since you did not consent to intercourse without a condom and ejaculation inside you, he did force it on you without your consent, so it should qualify as a crime. Unfortunately, it seems that proving it is still quite difficult. Even so, I believe the day may come when the courts recognize cases like this. In the past, rape within marriage was not recognized as a crime, but the law has changed so that it can now be established even between spouses. Perhaps one day, similarly, cases involving a lack of consent will also be recognized as crimes. Now, why file a police report even if there’s a possibility that it won’t result in criminal charges? To put pressure on the man. If you also file a civil lawsuit seeking damages, that would place considerable pressure on him. And if the judge sees that the man is being accused of rape, there is a greater chance that the court may recognize the conduct in the civil case—even if it was not recognized in the criminal case—and order him to pay damages. Of course, the purpose of this lawsuit would also be to encourage him to settle. If his lawyer approaches you with a settlement offer, reaching a settlement at that point may be the most practical resolution.

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ So, you didn’t consent, right? Please stand your ground. You have every right to demand reimbursement for emergency contraception and medication. It may be an extreme approach, but you can also file a rape complaint. It may be difficult to establish the charge, but it could still cause serious social consequences. I know some people may abuse this or read too much into it when I say that, but protecting your own body is what matters most. Even if it means kicking him away or ruining the mood, have the courage to make him stop.