Every business owner and company executive I’ve met in my life—not just through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—has always traveled by chauffeured car or taxi. I’ve hardly ever been made to walk.

I always enjoy reading Aya’s answers—they’re wonderful. I think the best approach is probably to handle men skillfully, so I feel that acting like Aya is the right way to do things. That said, if you can’t do that, I’d actually appreciate it if you would just say so directly. Better yet, if you included it in your profile, you’d likely receive fewer offers from people whose views don’t align with yours, while getting more offers from gentlemen who would say, “No, no—I’m a gentleman.” If I may add just one thing: I’d appreciate it if you could understand that not using taxis or hired cars doesn’t necessarily mean someone is financially strapped. Some people simply choose to spend their money in different ways. In my case, rather than spending unnecessarily on transportation, I’d rather put that money toward the allowance. I believe there are quite a few men who feel the same way. That said, I understand that women feel uncomfortable when they have to walk a long distance with an older man and get stared at, so I do think men should use taxis to avoid embarrassing their companions. On the other hand, men who fail to notice things like that probably have other unpleasant traits that become apparent over time, meaning the relationship ultimately won’t last. Ideally, I think women should pursue wonderful men who take care of things without needing to be told, while men make an effort to win the woman’s favor. I’ve always thought that would be a lovely dynamic.

I make a point of taking taxis when I’m traveling with someone I’m dating. And when walking is unavoidable, I tell her that it’s fine if we walk a little apart. I do that out of consideration for women. But when I’m told that this is simply expected, I can’t help feeling that something’s not quite right. I understand not wanting to walk alongside a papa (a male supporter) old enough to be your father. But am I imagining it, or is there no sense of gratitude toward the papa (a male supporter) who’s giving her an allowance? Personally, I don’t like spending money unnecessarily, so I almost never take taxis in my everyday life. I usually take the train, and I love walking, so I won’t even take the train if it’s only two or three stops. Perhaps chauffeured cars and taxi vouchers used to be status symbols, but these days, I feel like people are more focused on cutting costs and that mindset has become less common. I believe some mayor recently caused an uproar when he tried to fly business class on a business trip.

Why not just write in your profile: “I’d like you to travel by taxi. If you come to the date location by train, I’ll lose interest.” People like me won’t make you an offer, so I think you could weed out quite a few train-riding papas that way lol. By the way, I’m one of the train users myself, but obviously I’ll take a taxi if it’s more than five minutes from the restaurant to the hotel.

“I was so excited to see you today that I dressed up and wore heels, but I hurt my foot on the way here… *sob*” Then make a point of showing how much it hurts to walk. → Show the bandage on your heel to make it more convincing. → Have him put you in a taxi. → Act genuinely delighted: “Oh my gosh, thank you so much! I’ve never taken a taxi on any of my dates before… I usually only take the train, so this makes me so happy♡” The key is to look as happy as possible—almost exaggeratedly so. That should make taxis a given from next time onward. Good luck.

You can simply say that you don’t want to walk. Alternatively, you could ask to meet at the hotel.

Thank you for your question. Maezawa here. > I’d like to ask him to arrange a taxi ride. How should I go about it? I think it would be fine to say: “How about taking a taxi? I’ll pay for it.” You could also call a taxi through a ride-hailing app on the way home. That said, just for reference, Universe Club recommends not traveling by car on a first date in urban areas. The reason is simple: women may feel afraid getting into a stranger’s car right away. In rural areas, riding in someone else’s car may be more common, so it may be acceptable in some cases. But in city centers, it isn’t common, and more women are likely to feel uneasy about it. Realistically, once you get into someone’s car, you don’t know where they might take you. They could drive you deep into the mountains, then drop you off there after saying, “Our terms don’t match, so we’re done here.” They might also suddenly take you to a hotel, or somewhere with a large group of men, potentially putting you in a very difficult situation. You should also understand that most men probably don’t want to date a woman who refuses to walk around with them at all. Of course, if you’re happy to reject those men and only meet men who are willing to accommodate women whose sole aim is money—and who won’t make you walk anywhere—that choice is entirely up to you.