How should I handle seeing a married papa (a male supporter)?
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I’ve been seeing a papa for about five months now, and he’s married. He supports my dreams, and I’d like to stay close with him for a long time.
However, the closer we get, the more I worry that his wife might find out. Lately, he seems overly excited about our relationship, and honestly, I’m anxious. If she finds out, I could end up having to pay compensation, and I might not be able to see him anymore.
Is there anything I can do to keep his wife from finding out? I already avoid wearing perfume and make absolutely sure not to leave any trash or hair in his car.
Also, do you and your papa ever discuss what would happen if his wife found out?
Thank you.
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From your message, it sounds like you’ve built a solid relationship with your papa, so I think it would be fine to tell him:
“I’d like us to continue seeing each other for as long as possible, so I’d appreciate it if you could be careful about the following.”
Things the papa should be mindful of include:
- His smartphone
- Where the money comes from (bank accounts and cards)
- Making sure the two of you aren’t seen together by anyone he knows
- Any unusual smells
- Sudden changes in his grooming or appearance
- Fake business trips or lying about working on his days off
Those are probably the main ones.
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A papa (a male supporter) who’s getting carried away can be dangerous.
Especially if he’s never cheated before, you may notice things like:
- His behavior changes completely
- He starts dressing differently
- He pays more attention to his underwear
But what really gives him away is his phone.
Make sure you don’t neglect how you manage it.
Marika
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This topic comes up a lot, but as long as there’s no concern for your wife’s personal safety, I don’t think you need to worry much about being sued or having to pay compensation.
I talked with the woman I was seeing a little at the beginning of our relationship, but even after more than five years, everything has continued without any problems.
That said, every situation is different, and I suppose it depends on what kind of wife she is…
Apparently, some people have actually been asked to pay compensation, so I think it’s best to be at least somewhat careful.
As for keeping things from being discovered, I think the key is not meeting more often than necessary or calling and messaging on LINE too frequently.
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A wife getting angry at a woman her husband gives money to is pretty pathetic.
If it were an affair, she’d probably be furious and burning with jealousy. But I don’t think many wives would call it cheating when he’s seeing a woman he pays to meet.
She’s not his girlfriend—he isn’t seeing her regardless of the money…
The allowance is basically insurance, too.
Without the allowance, she wouldn’t see him, would she?
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