Thank you for your question. I’ll answer as Maezawa as well.
I think the issue could be resolved if you learn the technique and become able to put on a condom without the other person noticing.
For example, there are websites that explain how to put on a condom using your mouth.
That particular site only described the basic method, but it might be effective to establish a flow of oral sex followed by penetration, put the condom on unnoticed during oral sex, and then proceed to penetration without them realizing it.
That said, this assumes that losing the erection when a condom is required is caused by a psychological issue. So this might possibly solve the problem.
It may also help to have 0.02 mm or 0.01 mm condoms ready and keep one in your hand without letting your partner notice.
How to Put on a Condom Using Your Mouth
(1) Get the penis fully erect
The first requirement for putting on a condom is that the penis is fully hard. It is difficult to put one on properly while it is still soft.
Use oral sex or hand stimulation to help him become fully erect.
(2) Take the reservoir tip into your mouth
When putting on a condom with your mouth, you should take the reservoir tip at the end into your mouth first.
At this stage, pinch the tip between your lips to remove the air inside. Do not use your teeth—just hold it gently between your lips while squeezing out the air.
Biting the condom or handling it with long fingernails can cause it to tear, so be careful.
(3) Place it over the glans as if giving it a kiss
Once you have removed the air from the reservoir tip, hold and steady the base of the penis with your hand.
Then place the condom over the glans as if you were kissing it. The inside of the condom—the side facing the penis—is coated with lubricant, so it should adhere naturally and not slip off easily.
For extra security, keep the penis pointing upward as you place it on.
(4) Lower it while taking it into your mouth
While holding the base of the penis steady with one hand, take the penis into your mouth and slowly unroll the condom downward.
Don’t rush; go slowly at first. Rather than using your tongue, use only your lips to hold the condom and gradually roll it down.
(5) Use your hand to finish putting it on
If you are inexperienced or the penis is too large and the condom does not slide all the way to the base, use your hand to follow the downward motion and help unroll it. This should make it fit more smoothly.
How to Practice Putting on a Condom Using Your Mouth
Putting on a condom with your mouth may not go well if you try it for the first time during the actual encounter. Relying only on the sensation of your lips to put one on is actually an advanced technique.
If it takes too long because you are having difficulty, he may lose his erection instead. To prevent that, it is best to practice beforehand if possible, before trying it during sex.
So what items can you use to practice putting on a condom with your mouth?
Items for Practicing
Dildo
First, you need something to put the condom on. Some websites recommend using foods such as bananas, eggplants, or sausages, but their thickness and length are not very similar, so they are not ideal.
When it comes to an object with a shape most similar to a penis, a dildo is probably the best choice.
Even if he loses his erection and can’t enter, isn’t it actually fine as long as you still receive the usual allowance?
If he’s reducing the amount, you could at least suggest ED medication.
By the way, if he’s having unprotected sex with you, decide based on the allowance and the risks involved.
