A 30-year-old single mother I’d been seeing for six months suddenly stopped responding this month. My LINE messages remain unread, and she hasn’t contacted me either.
This is Tomokazu Akai from Universe Club.
To put it simply, as the other knowledgeable members have said, I believe there’s a high possibility that she has decided to end things.
There are various ways people fade out, but losing contact on LINE is, unfortunately, one of the more common ones. Ideally, I’d like to talk about parting on good terms, but perhaps this is simply the reality of these situations.
I think the fact that she was a single mother was also a major factor this time. I understand, at least to some extent, how difficult raising a child can be, since my own mother was a single mother. Under those circumstances, it seems difficult to maintain the same feelings, and people can easily experience a change in how they view their papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) activities.
Of course, I can’t defend simply fading out without replying, but I can only speculate that something may have made the arrangement feel like a burden to her…
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“My papa (male supporter) and I had been seeing each other for six months, but since the beginning of this month, he’s stopped replying to my LINE messages. Even when I invite him on a date, he leaves them unread.”
Is this really okay?
Unfortunately, lately there seem to be more and more people who simply cut off contact and disappear without properly saying goodbye. It feels especially malicious when they don’t even show up on the day of a planned date.
People’s sense of decency seems to be lacking these days. This isn’t a dating site, after all—we should both strive to act like gentlemen and ladies.
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Sounds like a fade-out.
It happens all the time.
One thing caught my attention, though. You said “even when I invite her suddenly”—you’re not asking her out the day before the date, are you?
Sorry if I’m mistaken.
If she’s a single mother, there are a lot of things she needs to arrange and prepare before she can go on a date, like finding someone to watch her child. If you’re not being considerate about that, I can understand why she might feel burdened and want to fade out.
It’s me.
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I’m no mind reader, so I can’t say for sure what’s going through that 30-year-old single mother’s mind or what her circumstances are. But judging from the situation, I think there’s a good chance she wants to end things.
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