I joined because I thought, “I’d really like a mistress.”
I’ve met five women so far.
They were all beautiful. But most of the conversations were about how much they wanted for one night, which left me confused.
Still, when I paid the rather endearing amounts they boldly asked for—¥30,000 to ¥80,000—I was able to move things forward after dinner, except in one case.
Unfortunately, though, I haven’t met anyone with the qualities or commitment to become a mistress.
I’m starting to feel like people like that don’t exist.
What does “a second round is gross” even mean…?
Is the idea that breaking the agreement of “one time for this amount” means, “If you want to do it twice, pay double”?
Everyone answers these questions so seriously without calling it out. You’re all far too gentlemanly.
Even so, it’s discouraging to think that I can’t enjoy even a pretend mistress relationship, let alone the real thing.
The discussions about going rates that get people excited in anonymous question boxes are all about how much for one time, too.
Is the goal simply to move things forward after dinner—is it not “sex,” but “success”?
Is this not a dating club, but a compensated-dating club?
I’m not saying this with any ill intent. If the rules are different, I want to understand them and follow them.
For reference, I was thinking of spending around ¥1 million in total each month, so I may disrupt the “going rate” without reading the room. I’m considering setting the allowance at a minimum of ¥100,000, with roughly ¥300,000 for the club, ¥300,000 for expenses, and ¥400,000 for allowances.
That actually sounds like it could be fun in its own way.
This is Saito, the columnist♪
Since everyone has already given such accurate answers, I’ll offer a different perspective.
Women asking for ¥30,000–¥80,000 tend to receive a concentrated number of offers from men, so I feel they’re often simply being treated as something to compare.
When you start feeling like you’re just
“one among many other men,”
it can become harder to find a woman who wants to treat you as a valued companion.
That said, there are still 7,000 women, so there are definitely women who will value and appreciate the men they meet.
P.S.
I think it’s a great idea to meet several people in one go, like Joe and the gentleman known as “Papa-Katsu’s Toughest Gentleman” do.
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Maezawa here.
First, unless you explain what kind of woman you think would be suited to being a mistress, I don’t think we can really discuss whether such women exist.
Once we know what kind of woman you’re looking for, there may be more to say.
If you’ve met five women and still haven’t found anyone who really stood out, I have to say that matching can be quite difficult.
That said, I believe the woman you’re looking for is among the members. Quite a few are in long-term relationships.
You said they were all beautiful, but wasn’t there even one you thought, “I wonder if I should give her a chance”?
If one of them had particularly enthusiastic comments from the staff, it might be worth making her an offer.
If the comments focus on her personality rather than her appearance, she may be the kind of woman you’re looking for.
If you feel absolutely no interest when looking at her photos, there’s no need to make an offer. But if you’re at least somewhat curious about someone, I think it can be worthwhile to go on a date and see whether her personality appeals to you.
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This is Joe, a columnist.
I completely understand how you feel. Even based on my own modest experience, playing at being lovers can be surprisingly difficult. That said, I don’t think women who are naturally suited to being a mistress are as rare as you may think. Generally speaking, a sample size of five is too small to make a judgment.
So here’s one suggestion: clearly explain what you’re looking for to your concierge and ask them to introduce you to around five women at once. You certainly don’t have to make an offer to all of them, but hopefully, through those encounters, you’ll be able to establish your own style. I hope you find someone wonderful.
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