I’m the person who asked about transportation expenses the other day.
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He was a man I met for the first time, but we had such an enjoyable conversation over dinner that we exchanged contact information and parted after agreeing to meet again.
Today, I told him:
“Thank you for the other day. The food was delicious, and I had a wonderful time—it was truly enjoyable and worthwhile. About the transportation expenses: I didn’t receive them last time, so I’d appreciate it if you could give them to me next time.”
He replied:
“I was planning to give you the transportation money all together after we’d met a few times and became intimate. We each paid 10,000 yen for the teppanyaki, and if you thought it was delicious, then surely it’s fine not to pay transportation expenses separately.”
In other words, I think he means that he’ll pay me the transportation expenses all at once if we end up having an adult relationship.
Is this kind of thing common? I’m sorry to ask another question, but I’d appreciate your advice.
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If the offer came through a club, this is definitely not normal. Covering your transportation costs is a rule.
Say goodbye to this papa (male supporter), give the club feedback, and wait for the next offer.
Hmm? You exchanged contact information? If this was papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through a website rather than a club, anything goes, so I suppose it’s possible.
The first meeting is crucial. If you don’t clearly ask for your transportation allowance, they may try to gloss over it even if you have an adult relationship (intimate).
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Yes, this is completely unacceptable. Report him to the club immediately.
As a female member, you can think of reporting this kind of behavior as practically your responsibility. If you don’t, it inconveniences the other members.
Also, you probably don’t need to contact that man anymore. I won’t stop you if you’d still want to see him without any money involved, but no matter how much you hope otherwise, I think this situation will only end one way.
Think about it. The club has the authority to force a male member to leave, and its rules state that you receive 0.5–1 as transportation expenses at the first meeting. Do you really think someone who can’t even follow that rule will keep his promises to a woman once the relationship develops? You—the woman—don’t have any authority like the club does, and the allowance involved is probably much higher. Given that, do you really think this man will suddenly start keeping rules and promises he’s ignored until now?
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