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Aug 16, 2023 00:14
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I received an offer and was able to have my first date the other day without any problems.
I was extremely nervous beforehand, but we talked over a meal, and he asked me, “I look forward to continuing to see you. I’d really like to meet again. When would be convenient for you next time?”
I replied verbally, “Thank you very much for making time for me today despite your busy schedule. Regarding our next meeting, I’ll check my schedule and get back to you at a later date. Thank you so much for taking an interest in me.”
The gentleman seemed as though he might not have had much experience dating women. During the meal, his face and palms were covered in sweat, and he kept wiping them off earnestly.
I feel that thoughtfulness, consideration, and sincerity toward one another are very important in any relationship.
I hope I’ll be able to build a relationship with the person who made me this offer, as he seems to be sincere. I don’t think meeting about twice a month would be too much of a burden for either of us.
I was very nervous before meeting him, but it turned out that things were easier than I’d expected.
Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to respond.
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From the flow of the conversation, I think it’s perfectly reasonable either to continue seeing him or to end things.
The man is making offers because he likes her, but it’s unclear how she feels. If he steers the conversation so that she can only give positive answers—prioritizing hearing the response he wants—that shows a lack of consideration for her. It’s likely that this kind of inconsiderate behavior will continue in other situations as well.
I’m concerned that seeing him more often may only become a burden.
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Taro, I think you meant “when,” not “what time.”
Anyway, I agree that saying they’ll get back to you about the next date is a common way of turning someone down. If they didn’t say it for that reason, then I’d say they were being neither considerate nor thoughtful.
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Sorry, I don’t think I answered your previous question, but congratulations—it sounds like things worked out.
When talking about plans for next time, starting with the time rather than the date or day of the week was a little refreshing. I wonder if the time is what matters most. If it had been 3:00, would you have been called “Three O’Clock You”? (Very Showa-era of me.)
Even though you liked him too, you didn’t give him an immediate answer, huh? “I’ll check my schedule and get back to you…” is something people often say when they’re planning to turn someone down. And “Thank you so much” being in the past tense also stood out. If it were me, I’d assume the chances were less than fifty-fifty.
Everything about this is so sweet and innocent—I’m jealous. And sweaty palms are probably a good sign too.
I’m rooting for things to work out.
Taro
P.S. Ohhh, so that’s what it was! LOL