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Thank you for your questions. Maezawa here. > ① I’ve only had that experience once, and it was painful. If I explain that I’d like him to be gentle, do you think the man will treat me gently? I think most men will be gentle, but whether it hurts can also depend on the other person’s size, and sometimes it may hurt even if he is being gentle. That said, if you explain how you feel, most men will probably treat you gently. > ② I prefer things like being kissed gently on my body. Ideally, what you like and what the other person likes will be compatible, but I think most men will want to do more once they go to a hotel. That said, this is a relationship based on mutual choice. Whether you can still receive an allowance under those terms—or whether he’ll say he can’t pay an allowance or continue seeing you—will likely depend on your appeal and how the other person feels. > ③ What about the first hotel visit? Where you go will depend on the person. If you don’t want to go to a love hotel, you could discuss it with him. However, you should keep in mind that he may decide he can’t continue seeing you, so it’s best to ask while considering that possibility. The club advises against staying overnight on the first day, so it should generally be fine unless it’s a date involving travel to another area. For dates involving travel, the rule is that the woman must be provided with a hotel room where she can stay alone. If the man tries to stay in that room, it violates the rules, so please contact the club. > ④ I’ve never been to a love hotel before. It’s completely different. However, if he takes you to a place that costs over 10,000 yen for a short stay, I don’t think you’ll find it all that unpleasant. Even so, it’s still different from a regular city hotel. > ⑤ As long as the days you’re available to meet fit the other person’s schedule, I don’t think there will be a problem.

If it’s your second time, it probably won’t hurt as much as the first. It’s a good idea to buy something called Lube Jelly at a drugstore or on Amazon and bring it with you. That said, if you happen to meet someone particularly well-endowed, it may still hurt. If it feels like too much, endure it just once, make sure you’re paid upfront, and decline to see him again.

Whether he treats you gently and whether it hurts during penetration are separate issues, but since you’re afraid, I think you should tell him that you’d like him to be gentle. Whether he actually is depends on the man. Even if he feels he’s being gentle, you may not necessarily experience it that way. If you simply do what you’ve always done and then tell him it hurt, he’ll probably be surprised too. As for②, that’s about what you want him to do for you. Why not think about what you can offer him in return? Even if it’s a date, the woman is the one receiving the allowance. As for the hotel, it could be a city hotel or a love hotel. You can assume there won’t be an overnight stay and simply say, “I’ll be going home that day,” unless he’s invited you from very far away. Especially on weekend evenings, it’s not necessarily a good time for a date. Many people prefer weekday afternoons. Marika

① Sex isn’t necessarily required. More accurately, though, in most cases you’ll be expected to have it. Whether a man can be gentle or skilled varies from person to person. From what women say, there seem to be quite a few men who are terrible at it. ② Going to a hotel doesn’t necessarily mean you have to have penetrative sex. That said, more often than not, you will be expected to. ③ The kind of hotel a man prefers varies from person to person. If you have a preference, I think you should simply say so. You don’t necessarily have to stay overnight. In fact, I think it’s more common not to be asked to stay overnight. ④ Love hotels and regular city hotels often differ quite a bit in both their systems and interiors. You can find photos of love hotel interiors by Googling them, so Google it, genius. ⑤ Ask the man you’re seeing. Some men may not be available on weekends, while others may not be available during the day. These things vary from person to person. Does undergraduate education only get as far as A = B?