I’d especially like to hear from male members.

Thank you for your question. Maezawa here. > I assume men generally go into a first meeting with a woman already thinking, “I like this girl.” In this case, “I like her” mainly means that they find her appearance attractive. So the moment they think, “Actually, she’s not really my type,” is probably based on things other than looks. It could be her mannerisms, conversation, or how considerate she is—things that can’t be seen in photos and only become apparent after meeting in person. > I want to avoid disappointing him as much as possible. Every man has different preferences and pet peeves. That’s why, during your first dinner together, you need to subtly draw out what those preferences are through conversation. It’s also important to remember that you don’t have to accommodate someone who is simply looking for a woman to treat like a slave. Well, if you were receiving over ¥1 million a month, you might be able to put up with being treated that way—but with a low allowance, I doubt the arrangement would work well because the stress would build up. Ideally, you should find someone you can be yourself around and spend time with comfortably. If he’s self-centered and unwilling to compromise, constantly saying things like, “That’s not okay” or “Neither is that,” you shouldn’t force yourself to continue seeing him. It could seriously affect your mental health, so please be careful.

If things end quickly in the early stages, it’s usually because she doesn’t talk and isn’t interesting, or, if it progresses to an adult relationship (intimate), she just lies there with little reaction.

In my case, I’ve had every kind of failure, from having my offers rejected by women I personally liked to suspecting them of lying about their relationship preferences, so I place a lot of importance on the staff’s comments. What’s been disappointing is when someone says, “I’m okay with dating!” but then it doesn’t actually work out. Well, I’m not exactly handsome, and I’m a lecherous old man, so I suppose it can’t be helped... When we meet, I’d rather women not force themselves and simply say when something isn’t going to work. They say women can decide within a minute of meeting a man for the first time whether they’re interested in dating him, after all. Also, in my case, I’m never disappointed by someone’s looks or anything like that. I do feel a little let down when I get the impression that she isn’t really listening. I fully understand that it isn’t always possible to talk about things young women are interested in, though... In those situations, I’d appreciate it if she would help keep the conversation going.

I can’t speak for everyone else, but when I meet someone, it’s not because I already think, “She seems great.” It’s more like, “She might be a good person.” I can’t decide that someone is great just from information gathered by another person during a brief interview. So personally, I often end things after just one meeting. Also, if someone tries too hard to put on an act when we meet, I feel that we’re probably not a good match. If you’re hoping for something ongoing rather than a one-time encounter, I think it’s better not to try too hard or put on a façade.