Serious men tend to seek serious women. At a club, they can also more easily find women who are the complete opposite—women who aren’t so serious.
They can meet even more diverse types of people.
There are unserious men and all kinds of other men too, and women likewise come in a wide variety of types. That diversity is what makes the club worthwhile.
By joining, you alone would add to that variety—and increase the possibilities as well.
You may not feel confident, but I’d still be grateful that she chose to give me her first time.
That’s not something you need to worry about.
When it comes to pain during sex, the experience of the first partner makes a big difference.
In that respect, it’s like having your wisdom teeth removed.
The belief that you should give your first time to someone you love may seem cruel to women who haven’t met someone they love yet.
Personally, I’d hate for a woman to have a bad experience with a boyfriend she doesn’t even like that much yet and end up disliking sex.
I decided to answer because I thought Mac’s response was particularly insightful.
I’m not interested in people who have never had sex. It’s simply too much trouble.
That said, there are people whose preferences are the exact opposite of mine, so some do prefer women who aren’t very experienced.
I’ve never met a woman who seemed confident about her body and was truly amazing. No matter how good someone’s figure is, the body will crease and sag when you bend over. Even someone with a body-fat percentage of around 10% and rock-hard abs will have folds when they bend over.
I’ve slept with more than ten women who claimed to have a “legendary” vagina, but I’ve never thought any of them were truly incredible.
Now, getting to the main point for me personally:
> I think there are probably a lot of people in the world who either don’t have romantic feelings at all or have very weak ones. I’m probably one of them too.
I’m probably one of them as well.
Maybe because of that, many of the women I’ve dated also seem to have weak romantic feelings, or believe that sex and romantic feelings are separate things.
Isn’t the idea that you should have sex with someone you’re in love with simply something rooted in Christian values that have been ingrained in us?
Also, becoming close to someone or respecting them are feelings separate from romantic love. What people generally call romantic love isn’t something particularly rational—it’s more like being high from a rush of dopamine.
Personally, I think saying you can’t have sex without being in love is the same as saying you can’t have sex unless you’re drunk. It just dulls your judgment.
If the point is that being intoxicated is somehow more human, I can understand that some people may see it that way. But as someone who dislikes drunk people, I can’t agree if I’m told that this is the majority view.
If the advice is simply that you should choose someone yourself and make sure you’re comfortable with your decision before sleeping with them, then that makes sense to me.
But I also think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is something women do with people they’ve chosen and feel comfortable with.
Thank you for your question.
Maezawa here.
Unless your hesitation is specifically because you feel your first partner should be a romantic boyfriend, having little or no experience with men is simply part of your individuality.
Everyone has different views. Someone who expects skill in bed probably wouldn’t date someone inexperienced, but for someone who wants to enjoy spending time together as two people, whether they have fun with you will likely matter more.
On the other hand, some men prefer virgins. There are even men who will make an offer specifically when a profile says the woman is a virgin.
There are all kinds of men, so you won’t know whether you’ll receive any offers until you actually register.
And even if you go on a date, if you feel that the man is only interested in your virginity and isn’t really seeing you for who you are—that there probably won’t be any ongoing relationship—you can decline an adult relationship (intimate).
I think it’s best to start by registering.
It’s good to think about the other person, but I don’t think you should view this solely in terms of intimacy.
Hello, I’m Mac, a papa who enjoys helping girls grow.
Recently, I’ve been dating the questioner from this post—the virgin girl who sent me a reverse offer:
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/15694
What I wrote in my answer seems to be coming true almost exactly, and tonight I’m taking her to a swinger bar for the third time. Last time, she had three young men wash her body in the bathroom. Now it’s just a matter of deciding when to hold her “graduation ceremony,” but for now, I plan to keep enjoying the process of letting this virgin girl mature a little more.
She wrote that she doesn’t have the mindset of, “Since I’m a virgin, I want my first time to be with someone I love!” But when I met her and listened carefully, it turned out she had been wondering whether she might be aromantic and asexual. She was confessed to and had a boyfriend in high school, but even after kissing and hugging, she felt no excitement at all. She felt so sorry about it that she eventually declined to continue the relationship. She has never masturbated and says she’s never felt sexual desire either.
When I actually touched her, she became very wet. Since she had never even used a tampon, I let her try an adult toy against her clitoris, and she clearly enjoyed it. So I feel she may simply be inexperienced and undeveloped. At least, she doesn’t seem to be asexual.
Her Universe Club profile doesn’t mention it, but she’s reached the national high-school championships in an individual sport. When I told her, “Think of papa-katsu as club activities, and think of me as your coach,” that seemed to really click with her and she accepted the idea. There are many different ways to reach a girl’s heart.
I haven’t kept count, but I’ve helped around ten virgins graduate through Universe Club alone. I really don’t want anyone to misunderstand this: I’m not fixated on being the person who physically penetrates them first. It’s more like wanting to properly drive a new car while it’s still new and get the engine used to running at high RPM. It’s not simply that I want to be the first one to drive it. I hope I’ll continue to have a connection with this questioner as well.
P.S.
I learned about the concept of “aromantic asexual” from this girl. Apparently, it falls under the Q in LGBTQ.
That got me thinking. Whenever the subject of a virgin girl comes up, many people answer, “Your first time should be with someone you genuinely fall in love with.” But aren’t there actually a lot of people in the world who feel little or no romantic attraction? I’m probably one of them too.
And is there really any disadvantage to not experiencing romantic feelings? Not just for me personally, but from the perspective of humans as a biological species, there doesn’t seem to be any particular problem.
After all, even without romantic feelings, as long as there’s sexual desire, the species can reproduce, right? What rational purpose does romantic love actually serve for humans as a species? Do we really need it?
If anything, women could function perfectly well without sexual desire, too. As long as men have sexual desire, the species can still reproduce.
That’s why I sometimes even think that women who are aromantic asexual shouldn’t necessarily be classified as LGBTQ at all, but could simply be considered completely normal.
I’m not denying the value of relationships where people become close over meals or respect one another. Those kinds of relationships would surely be enjoyable in their own way, and they’re what people call “human.” But the stereotypical majority opinion that says, “First fall in love with someone, and only then have your first time with them,” is merely the majority view. I’m saying it may not have enough rational basis to pressure minorities into converting to it.
Girls who want to lose their virginity through a dating club aren’t necessarily being reckless or taking it lightly. And if they’ve passed the interview, they’re probably reasonably attractive as well. So telling them, “Your first time should be with someone you’ve fallen in love with,” may just raise the bar unnecessarily and make things harder for them.
Good evening! My name is “Shiro Usagi.”
By “that kind of thing,” you mean you’ve never had any experience with men at all, right?
Please don’t worry. A dashing papa (male supporter) with plenty of experience with women is waiting for you. He’ll gently take the lead—surely.
The same goes for demand. There are all kinds of preferences, including men who like curvy women or find unconventional, cute looks appealing.
For some reason, the people who say they’re “not confident” in their looks are often quite attractive.
Even if you’re not confident about your appearance, it’s the gentlemen who get to decide.
Why not take the plunge and go to the interview? You might discover a new side of yourself.
We look forward to meeting you.
