I use my real name on LINE and live with my family, so I’d actually rather not use it.
(My notifications are set up all together, so there’s a chance my friends could see them, and there’s also a higher risk of accidentally sending something to the wrong person.)
But I couldn’t refuse, so we exchanged LINE contacts.
If I search the other person’s name, I can find their website and even photos showing their face. In that case, would it be unfair or rude to ask them to use KakaoTalk or another app instead?
If they’re a Universe Club member, are they unlikely to stalk me or misuse my personal information?
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If you want a long-term arrangement, you need to show that you trust the other person to some extent.
If you refuse to share your name or communicate via LINE, all you’re doing is making them feel that you’re wary of them.
Would you want to continue seeing a woman long-term if you felt she was constantly on guard around you?
There’s nothing wrong with being cautious at first, but you should think about what you want and gradually open up as you go.
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If you’re worried, as Taro mentioned, you could buy a cheap smartphone and carry two phones—one exclusively for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). You should be able to keep it running for around ¥2,000 a month.
If you don’t use LINE, it’ll probably be a hassle, and your papa may not like that.
These days, regardless of papa-katsu, you really shouldn’t share personal information unless absolutely necessary. There are all kinds of people out there.
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Thank you for your question.
Maezawa here.
I think using Kakao is fine, but many men want to know everything about the women they’re seeing, so some may feel dissatisfied and wonder, “Why won’t you give me your LINE?”
With that in mind, you could use Kakao when you first meet and say something like, “Once we get to know each other better and start meeting more often, I’ll give you my LINE.”
That said, it would be a shame to have the man feel dissatisfied, so I think it might be a good idea to buy another smartphone and give him the LINE account on that phone.
For example, with IIJmio, the monthly cost isn’t that high: ¥850/month for the 2GB plan, or ¥990/month for the 5GB plan.
If you still have an old smartphone from when you upgraded previously, you could use that. Otherwise, you can find one with decent performance for around ¥30,000. If you don’t care much about performance, there are even cheaper options, and if you buy it together with a SIM, the device cost can sometimes be included in your monthly payments.
Even buying another phone probably wouldn’t be that much of a burden.
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Everyone I’ve been seeing long-term knows my real name on LINE, so I don’t really trust people who only use Kakao or a secondary LINE account.
Of course, if you’re keeping things broad and casual with lots of people, that approach probably makes sense.
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I use SMS.
Since he calls me for our first date, we just continue communicating through iMessage. Neither of us has any complaints.
Just tell them, “I only use my real name with people close to me,” and get them to accept it. I don’t think it’s unfair, so I think it’s fine to use whichever tool is most convenient for you.
But you’ve already exchanged contact information, haven’t you?
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It’s LINE.
I use my real name there too, and the girls I’ve continued seeing also use their real names on LINE.
It feels more natural that way.
If your messages become more like the kind of exchanges you’d have with a friend or parent and child, you’re less likely to send something to the wrong person.
Once you get close, the way my favorite girl texts is almost identical to how my daughter texts.
If someone’s Kakao or LINE name is just a single character or a symbol, though, it seems pretty suspicious.
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Buy another smartphone and create a separate LINE account for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) on it. That’ll solve all your problems in one go♪
Even if the other person shows their face online, that’s their choice, so fairness doesn’t really come into it. And even if they’re showing their “チ●コ” in full online, you don’t have to do the same.
Ah, that censoring makes it hard to tell. I meant “chocolate.” If you thought the censored character was “ン,” then you must really love sex~ (lol)
Taro
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I usually exchange LINE contacts.
I don’t exchange contact information with people I don’t want to stay in touch with.
If someone suggests KakaoTalk, I don’t think it’s unfair or rude, but I do get the impression that they’re probably doing compensated dating through dating sites.
Rather than suggesting KakaoTalk, it would be much better to say, “My LINE account uses my full real name, so could we use SMS instead?”
I’m sure there are people among Universe Club members who stalk others or do other bad things.
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