What should I do when walking through a crowded area with my papa?
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I received my first offer and met a gentleman in a suit who had just finished work. We had to walk from the meeting point to the restaurant. It was only a few minutes, and it’s not that I don’t want to walk.
But the area was crowded, and just walking beside him and chatting without even holding hands led someone to point at us and loudly say, “Is that papa-katsu?”
I have a job, and since it was a busy downtown area where I was very likely to run into friends, I became consumed with worry about what I would do if someone I knew happened to be nearby.
Should I ask him to avoid certain stations, such as ○○ Station? He also drinks, so traveling by car doesn’t seem feasible...
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Rather than dressing too deliberately for a date, I think it’s perfectly fine to wear something casually relaxed, a regular outfit you’d wear to work, or even something that looks professional.
If you look like a parent and child, a boss and employee, coworkers, or a real estate agent and client, no one will be able to tell whether it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
At the very least, people who have never done or even considered papa-katsu won’t give any thought to what kind of relationship the two of you have.
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I think you should first figure out whether it’s the location you dislike or the walking, then explain that to your papa.
Alternatively, in areas like Ginza, where people often go on dates with companions, and around Shibuya or Shinjuku, where there are many hotel-based adult entertainment venues and couples using love hotels, you’re less likely to stand out—or perhaps you’ll just blend in more.
With my monthly arrangements, some people meet me directly at the room, while others don’t mind having dinner first and then going to the room afterward. Personally, I accommodate whatever the other person prefers.
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Thank you for your question.
Maezawa here.
Even for your first date setting with Universe, you can tell the staff, “I’d prefer somewhere other than this station,” and they’ll pass that on to the man. For dates after the second one, I think they can also arrange to meet near a different station if you explain the circumstances.
If the arrangement is to meet at a hotel and part ways at the hotel, some men who value the dating club experience may not be comfortable with that, so I don’t think it’s best to suggest it yourself.
If a man wants to meet at a hotel, he’ll probably be the one to propose it.
Personally, though, I can’t help wondering: how is that any different from the adult entertainment industry?
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I’m especially considerate on the first meeting. It’s best to arrange to meet at the venue rather than at the station.
It’s also fine to give those rude people a piece of your mind.
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I usually say, “If you’re worried, you can keep your distance and follow me,” and then walk.
Of course, if he follows close enough to have a conversation, I’ll chat a little, but I won’t link arms with him.
If someone says something like that to you in passing, just carry yourself confidently. Think, “Sure, whatever. It’s not like someone as ugly as you could pull that off anyway.”
To avoid running into people you know, just designate an area where that isn’t a concern.
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It’s probably a good idea to specify which stations are off-limits. In Tokyo, a lot of women don’t like areas around Shinjuku or Shibuya.
Uguisudani is absolutely safe. There are plenty of reliably good restaurants, lots of love hotels, and you’re unlikely to run into anyone you know—it has nothing but advantages（笑）
I think male members in Tokyo should really put effort into finding places like that. Nippori and Tabata are good too, but Kinshicho and Kamata often come up when someone says, “I didn’t tell the club, but I was actually working at a hostess bar,” so I’d avoid them (for the guys). In that case, Kameido or Aomono-Yokocho might be better. Kiyosumi-Shirakawa isn’t bad either. Suitengumae may have quite a few women in that line of work.
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> A downtown area where there’s a good chance I might run into friends
That’s probably the problem. Just saying, “Please avoid XX Station,” would be enough.
A thoughtful papa would arrange to meet at a private-room restaurant and use taxis for all other transportation, but women would probably find it difficult to ask for that.
In my case, when a woman links arms with me, my hand naturally ends up on the raised area above her crotch, so I simply walk through the crowds downtown while stroking her pussy.
I often pay for women to come from far away, so maybe the fact that it’s not their hometown makes a big difference. We normally hold hands. Nobody particularly dislikes it, and even while walking, the woman will sometimes snuggle up and lean her head against me.
> Someone pointed at us and loudly said, “Hey, that’s papa-katsu.”
It wasn’t said loudly in my case, but I’ve experienced something similar twice. The first time was inside a café, so I went over to their table and clearly said—in a suitably loud voice, “I’m here with my daughter, so could you please stop saying weird things?” (They looked down and stayed quiet.)
The other time was someone passing by at the beach, so I couldn’t really complain. But when I told the girl, “Sorry there was some weirdo saying things like that,” she replied, “I’d hate it if I weren’t doing papa-katsu and someone called me a papa-katsu girl, but since I am doing papa-katsu and that’s what they called me, I don’t really care.” I thought, What an honest and clever girl she is. Hope that helps.
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