I’m the person who asked the question at the link above.

Maybe he’s just bad at conversation and only brings it up because he wants something to talk about. If there aren’t any other issues, talk him around and make some money.

I don’t know what his purpose was, but I suspect he’s simply socially awkward and unable to judge the appropriate distance between himself and the other person. Since dating involves relationships between men and women, someone lacking self-control might engage in problematic behavior when things go sour. I once heard about a woman at another club who blocked a man after he sent her creepy messages, even though he had paid her allowance in advance. The man then contacted her workplace, saying, “I gave her money, but she blocked me,” and the woman was called in by her supervisor. This wasn’t a compensated-dating arrangement, but I’ve also heard of a woman who turned down a man’s marriage proposal, only for him to show up at her workplace, loudly call out her name, and cause a scene by accusing her of marriage fraud. These incidents weren’t caused by the women’s personal information being known. They happened because their relationships with men who lacked self-control turned sour. You might conflate the two because it’s reasonable to suspect that a man who asks for your real name and home address before even meeting you may lack self-control. But I think it’s better to sort things out and consider each issue separately.

Article 2 of Japan’s Anti-Prostitution Act defines “prostitution” as having sexual intercourse with an unspecified person in exchange for compensation, or a promise of compensation. In other words, if you have sex for money without knowing who the other person is, that counts as prostitution. But if both parties know each other’s identities, then even if money changes hands, it technically isn’t considered prostitution. A dating club is supposed to arrange that kind of encounter. Since brokering prostitution is illegal, the proper approach would be for both people to introduce themselves to each other and then begin seeing one another. That’s the official line, but even if it’s “just” a formality, it’s still a formality and shouldn’t be forgotten. With that in mind, I’d say the man’s request is quite reasonable. He’s introducing himself, after all. That said, your practical concerns are perfectly understandable—you might worry that he could turn into a stalker, or post something about you online if you upset him. You could try asking, “I’ve heard about a friend who went through a terrible stalking ordeal, so I’d like to share more little by little once we’ve gotten to know each other better. Would that be difficult for you?” If a man gets upset over that, I think it’s fine to cut him off. At the very least, you could tell him only your first name and say, “For now, I’d like to keep it to just this much.”

I gave him my real name, but not my workplace or address. Even so, he was making me uncomfortable, so I deleted his unread messages and cut off contact. Then a cheap-looking piece of erotic lingerie was sent to my workplace. I assume he searched my name, found my workplace’s website, and sent it there. When I said I didn’t recognize the package, an office worker opened it, so they probably saw what was inside. I brushed it off by saying, “I think I have a stalker.” Well, that was actually true. On another occasion, someone else was sending me so many LINE messages that I found it annoying and ignored him. Then I found a letter in my mailbox saying, “I’m worried about you. Please contact me.” I had gone golfing with him once, so he had picked me up at home. If you can’t handle situations like these, then give up papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and just work steadily for your money. Marika

I honestly can’t understand why a man would want to ask about that. It seems downright abnormal to me. Especially when it comes to dating clubs or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I’d expect women to bring it up naturally themselves. I can only assume he acts that way because he has no experience with it.