Good evening.

Some men are only able to meet once a month, but it really comes down to whether their availability matches yours. Arrangements tend to last longer when you can be as flexible as possible around the man’s schedule. If you decide to register, write in your profile that you can only meet about twice a month. There’s also a section for your availability, so make sure to fill it in. Women who can meet during weekday afternoons and are available to go on dates anytime tend to receive more offers, so keep that in mind when registering with a dating club.

I’m Shiro Usagi, a new responder. If you fill up your schedule in advance with the twice-a-month date slots you’re allowed, you won’t be able to accept other offers when they come in. So I think it’s better not to fill them all until you have an exclusive arrangement with one person. If you’re registered as a C or D type and turn someone down at the first date, it could lower your rating. They’ll probably present their terms during the first dinner, so why not try asking for about twice the amount they offer? I don’t think they’ll give you a bad rating just because your terms didn’t match. Of course, if they agree to that amount, you’ll have to spend the day with them, so name an amount you’re comfortable with. In the first place, someone unhygienic probably wouldn’t pass the interview, so you may not need to worry that much. I put the allowance in a small envelope and hand it over once we’re seated and the staff have left us alone. It probably depends on the person, so if they hand you cash without an envelope, just accept it gratefully. Good luck!

① I’m not really sure what you mean by “okay,” but choosing to focus on just one partner is your decision. Whether they’ll continue seeing you—and whether they’ll focus exclusively on you—is up to them, so I can’t say for certain that everything will be okay. In my experience, the screening period lasts until about the third meeting, and only around 10% make it past that point. After that, things tend to be relatively stable. The next milestones are around six months and one year; once you get past those, you enter the realm of a long-standing bond. Once the relationship has gone from pure white to a slightly yellowed off-white, and it has its own distinctive smell that somehow makes you feel at ease when you catch it, then you’re probably fine. I’m not sure what exactly is supposed to be “fine,” but I can confidently say it is. ② As for this, if she’s a Type B, there’s generally no first meeting to begin with, so I think saying, “I’m a little hesitant to start from the first meeting,” should work. If she’s a Type C or D, “I’m sorry, my period suddenly started” is probably the standard, tactful excuse. ③ I think how you hand over transportation money depends on the person. I’ve never used a small envelope; I put it in a slim envelope about the same width as a banknote—the No. 30 long envelope used for standard mail. I leave the flap unfolded and let part of the bill show, so the woman can immediately see that there’s a Yukichi inside, which I think reassures her. In practice, more than half of them check. The other day, I was out of the smaller envelopes, so I used a No. 3 long envelope—the kind used at work for A4 documents folded into thirds—and she said, “Wow, that’s huge lol.” (laughs) Actually, isn’t the location more important than how you hand it over? For the first meeting, a private room is essential. Taro

① Regarding your first question If you feel you can make plans twice a month, though realistically it will average about once a month, you’ll naturally end up narrowing it down to one person. That said, you won’t know whether it will develop into a long-term relationship until you’ve been seeing someone for at least around six months. Until then, I think it’s better not to limit yourself to just one person. ② Regarding your second question That’s why Universe Club has relationship types. People who aren’t confident about turning someone down smoothly are usually advised to choose the B1 or B2 type. After having dinner together for the first meeting, say goodbye and send a thank-you message. If the man invites you out again, politely decline with some suitable excuse. Incidentally, B1 is often perceived as being close to the A type, so you may receive fewer offers. If you’re looking for an adult relationship (intimate), I recommend choosing B2. ③ Regarding your third question Whether or not to put the allowance in an envelope probably depends on the person. The club doesn’t give any specific instructions about it. Personally, when I’m given it in public, I put it in a small decorative envelope. However, the man may simply be inexperienced, so it might be best not to worry about it too much. The first dinner is a chance for both people to observe and get a feel for each other. I hope this helps. Good luck!