It’s really hot right now, so I get sweaty and would like to take a shower before getting into bed. But sometimes my papa says, “I want you now—forget the shower.”

Personally, I wouldn’t be okay with it. A shower is a must. I’d be too worried about whether I smelled, so I couldn’t focus on being intimate. And if the woman smelled, it would be a major turnoff. If it bothers you, tell him clearly. If he won’t change, end things and find a papa who actually showers properly. As an aside, there was a woman I once made an offer to here. She had a very innocent, cute look, and great fashion sense—but the area around her butt crack always smelled. Maybe she didn’t wash properly with soap every day. It felt like the smell had become ingrained. It was a shame, but I ended things without saying anything. Take note of other people’s behavior and improve your own. I make sure to wash thoroughly every day so I don’t miss anything, lol.

There are definitely a certain number—or percentage—of people like that. They’re the type who lick your armpits or your toes. Giving them the benefit of the doubt, you could say, “If that’s your thing, I’ll put up with you licking me without a shower, but could you at least shower beforehand?” But I can’t bring myself to say that, so I just make it clear that I don’t want anything unless they shower first. If it’s with someone I like and things naturally lead that way, then, as Taro says, I might be okay with it. But not in the middle of summer. Marika

I do, but I never explicitly ask for it. It just happens naturally as things progress. In those cases, we sometimes leave the lights on and the TV playing, so I find it a little odd when they ask me to turn the lights off after we’ve actually taken a proper shower. Taro