About the Ratio of Dates With and Without an Adult Relationship

My longest-standing favorite has been with me for years. We’ve never discussed the allowance for either dinner dates or adult relationships, and there’s no fixed amount. Our dinner-only dates started when she came to see me even though she wasn’t sure whether she’d receive anything. ・Difference in allowance with and without an adult relationship I’d say it’s roughly three times as much… ・What’s the ratio of dates with and without an adult relationship? Some women have an adult relationship every time we meet, while others do so only once every 2–3 meetings or once every 7–8 meetings. That said, the number of adult dates per month might be fairly similar—around 1–2 to 3–4 times. If you’re seeing each other for an adult relationship nearly once a week, then as long as you’re both enjoying the other dates—whether for dinner, errands, or going out—that should be enough. Of course, only if that’s what she wants, too…

I don’t provide an allowance for dates without sex, so basically, if we go on a date, sex is part of it. Sometimes I’ll meet someone just for a meal or coffee when I have some free time, but since there’s no allowance, I try not to initiate those meetings. It only happens when the woman asks me, so maybe once every five times. I don’t know if you’re lacking confidence, but this kind of thing varies from person to person and relationship to relationship.

Basically, I don’t do dates without an adult relationship. The only exception is when it gets called off due to something like a sudden illness. In those cases, I give them ¥10,000, based on the club’s standard transportation allowance for a first meeting.