From a man’s perspective, if he’s doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and going to hostess clubs at the same time, which one ranks higher?
Just like Kazu said, it’s not really about one being better or worse than the other.
I guess it depends on the man’s position in life.
I used to go to hostess clubs when I was younger, but now I don’t have the courage to go anymore (lol), so I stick to dating clubs.
Hostess clubs aren’t for me, and I can’t stand being in that kind of environment, so I don’t go. I don’t find them enjoyable.
It may vary from person to person, but to me, they’re a completely different category and nothing alike.
What exactly is supposed to be better or worse?
I used to find dating partners at hostess bars and clubs.
I would choose a woman I liked at the club and spend a decent amount of money there. Eventually, we’d start going out together before or after her shift, and sometimes things would develop from there.
The annoying thing about those places was having to entertain women I wasn’t even interested in to some extent. While the woman I had chosen was sitting at another table, it was irritating when the woman filling in for her would try to make a move on me.
As long as I spent a reasonable amount at the club, I’d get to know the owner or mama and become familiar with them, so I wouldn’t do anything that might cause the club to lose business or make the woman quit.
I absolutely never gave allowances to women I met at those clubs. Things like that—secretly paying a woman directly, known as backdoor or direct dealing—are taboo in the nightlife industry. I consider any woman who suggests something so taboo to be trouble, so I don’t get involved with her.
Since relationships through a dating club are based on an allowance, I find the idea of pretending to be a couple rather creepy. I enjoy having a sensible, well-bounded relationship where the allowance is understood from the start.
These days, I don’t go drinking to look for someone because it’s time-consuming, expensive, and a hassle. When I was younger, I was uncomfortable with the idea of giving women an allowance, so I went drinking to find someone I could get close to and have fun with. Now, I prefer dating clubs, where I can find someone to get along and have fun with quickly simply by giving her an allowance.
To me, these are completely different things, so I can’t understand the mindset of trying to compare which is better or worse.
