When the man sets the allowance, I always accept whatever amount he offers.

I’ve never negotiated the allowance, because, as others have mentioned, it always creates an uncomfortable atmosphere. I wish I could speak up, but it’s just not in my nature… Rather than negotiate, I’d honestly prefer to gradually fade out of contact with a papa (a male supporter) who offers a low allowance. That said, when it comes to money, I do think it would feel much better to be upfront about what you want from the beginning. It’s difficult, though. I’m sure you’ll eventually meet someone who offers a fair allowance. Good luck.

Whenever I ask someone who writes all sweet and modest like this, “So, how much are we actually talking about?” they’ll say, “At least 10,” every time. LOL That said, if you leave the allowance “up to them” and then complain afterward, it’s better to state what you want from the beginning. Or maybe it’s the kind of treatment you’re looking for. Either way, you should have that conversation at the first meeting. State your preferences upfront, and if your terms don’t match, just say, “Sorry,” and end it there. There’s no need to negotiate. Sometimes, when the terms don’t match, someone will say, “How about we meet in the middle at ●?” But that’s fairly uncommon. I may go along with it if they seem persistent, but those arrangements never last. It’s not like both people say their terms at the same time—you know one person speaks first. The person who goes second has only two choices: agree or decline. If they can’t make up their mind at that point, even if you find a compromise through negotiation, it won’t last. Taro