Do your best to make the adult relationship enjoyable for him, and make sure to react so you don’t just lie there unresponsive.
For example, if he hugs you, properly put your arms around his shoulders or waist, make some sounds, and so on.
Don’t overthink it—just do the kinds of things your boyfriend would be happy about.
Many men prefer innocent reactions over someone who seems overly experienced or jaded, so be confident.
You could even tell him beforehand, “I’m practically a second virgin, and it’s been a long time, so please be gentle.” That would probably excite him too. I know I’d definitely be excited.
Tell him things like, “It feels so good after such a long time.” Men will be even happier if you say things like that.
People who are “second virgins” have a unique kind of nervousness, don’t they? But I don’t think you need to worry that much.
First and foremost, I think it’s important to look at your partner and genuinely connect with them. If you’re so worried about turning them off that you focus on techniques for keeping the relationship going, and end up treating everyone the same, that’s what will really kill the mood. If you truly pay attention to your partner, they’ll pay attention to you too. Once that happens, being a second virgin is just one circumstance among many.
That said, it’s best to keep the number of things you can’t do to a minimum. I once started seeing a woman who had little experience and hadn’t been intimate with anyone for about a year. When the time finally came, the lights were almost completely off, the love hotel’s background music was on—perhaps because she wanted to disguise her voice—kissing was off-limits, and so was going down on her. I was basically forced to play shogi with the rook, bishop, knight, and lance all removed. I did my best and managed to finish, but it was pretty difficult.
Also, don’t get too comfortable and compare yourself to the previous person. Saying things like, “The last guy was bigger,” or, “How can you move your hips like that?” is nothing but unnecessary feedback（笑）
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