When I was a student, I was involved with a married man.

Thank you for your question! Please forgive me for giving you a somewhat mean answer. I’m guessing the real question behind your post is: “Is there anything in it for me if I go abroad with him?” - People around you might get suspicious if you’re away from Japan for four or five days, and hiding it sounds like a hassle. - Making room in your schedule is a hassle. - You want to ask how much you’d be paid, but even that feels like a hassle. - You’ll probably just be stuck in a hotel being expected to be intimate nonstop anyway. Are there really enough benefits to outweigh all of that? That’s probably what you’re asking. And as for disasters or accidents, those can happen in the Shibuya hotel district too. “Do I really have to go?” → Any normal adult can figure out in 0.0001 seconds that, no, you don’t have to. If the terms were a 10-million-yen-per-night room and 100 million yen per day, you probably wouldn’t be hesitating. So how about asking: “It’s going to take a lot of effort, like pretending to take time off from my part-time job, so could you do 100,000 yen per night? ♡”

If you’re not comfortable with it, just say no. One of the best things about dating clubs is that women can turn down arrangements they don’t want. If he keeps pressuring you, end things and look for another papa (a male supporter).

You don’t have to force yourself to go.

You’re in your 30s and still can’t make a decision like this for yourself? Pull yourself together!