Question about moving from dinner-only to an adult relationship

That’s exactly as Mr. Maezawa wrote.

> Is it possible for male members to feel that way about a woman? Since they make an offer after seeing her photos, I don’t think they’re usually very disappointed to begin with. However, some people do say that the photos were too flattering, so in those cases, they may start out feeling a little disappointed. That said, if it’s only to that extent, a woman who is enjoyable to talk to or has something appealing about her can quickly make up for the initial disappointment regarding her appearance. Unlike dating apps, the photos are posted unedited. So even if the photos look good, they still show the woman herself, and when a man is with her, he can see the same expressions as in the photos. If he happens to see her from the same angle with the same expression as in the photo, I think he’ll realize that she looks just like her pictures. > I use blurred photos. Are you not showing unblurred photos to the people you’re making offers to and getting their approval first? If you meet while the photos are still blurred, I do think there’s a chance they’ll be disappointed in person. And it seems quite difficult to make up for that with other qualities. That said, some men don’t place much importance on appearance, while others value personality more. In those cases, I think you can turn things around during the conversation.

If you don’t live up to expectations in person, it’s unlikely that things will develop into an adult relationship (intimate). That said, though I may be overstepping, there’s no such thing as a partner who’s a perfect match in every way, so men make some compromises too. It may be similar to women compromising on a man’s allowance. Even so, in my case, I don’t feel that things progress simply because a woman is good at conversation or considerate.

In my case, no, it can’t really be made up for. That said, I don’t judge someone based on their looks alone. I also value their overall vibe—how comfortable I feel spending time with them, or what you might call compatibility. Sorry for sounding so presumptuous when I haven’t even made an offer to a member in the past five years.

Even if the photos are blurred, you can usually make a rough guess. Personally, gummy smiles are a major turnoff for me, but I think they often go unnoticed even when the photos aren’t blurred. In my case, a gummy smile is such a dealbreaker that no amount of casual conversation can make up for it. I don’t look for thoughtfulness in a dating partner in the first place, so it’s irrelevant to me. If anything, I find it off-putting because it feels like dealing with a hostess. I’m tired of that kind of thing, so I don’t go. If I want it, I’ll go to a nightlife establishment. Incidentally, a dating club isn’t a sex-service establishment, so I think women can choose their partners regardless of age. Personally, I dislike people who act overly deferential and say things like “Who am I to…” in places like this—it comes across as being politely rude.