A papa who didn’t respond to my messages beforehand

If this is just another question from the same bored person, posted around the usual time, then the questioner is in the wrong. Why didn’t you go to the meeting place? Once you’ve made a promise, you’re supposed to show up. But if this is actually from someone who’s genuinely in trouble, then the man who didn’t reply is in the wrong. Even so, after explaining the situation, adding “I’m sorry…” would probably make him trust you more. In any case, I really wish this questioner would stop imagining random scenarios and posting whatever comes to mind just because they’re bored. How do you come up with something to write every single day? Your answers end up being the opposite of what genuinely troubled people need to hear, which only makes things harder for them. Please stop sending these strange questions.

In this case, it’s a bit questionable, isn’t it? If I were in the same position, I’d probably go anyway, even if it ended up being a wasted trip. You’re quite a bit older than her, and she seems like a lovely girl, after all（笑） I’m the same way, but when I’m busy, I sometimes don’t check my phone. So I figured he probably just missed the message. Something similar actually happened to me once. I received a confirmation that afternoon, which put my mind at ease, but after that, I started telling people, “Please confirm by the morning of the day we meet!” Since then, I’ve always received confirmation by morning. What a clueless papa（笑） Maybe he’s just a little laid-back? You might wonder, “Is he actually coming?” It could end up being a wasted trip, but try to keep a little extra room in your heart and your wallet, and enjoy yourself（笑）

Of course you’d feel confused. “Sorry for making you feel anxious.” Why is it so hard for him to say that? That one sentence would make such a huge difference in how you see your papa (a male supporter), wouldn’t it? It made me wonder whether he really cares about you! I don’t think you should force yourself〜

You’ve already met this man several times, right? If I wanted to continue seeing him, I’d still go to the meeting place, even if I was anxious because I couldn’t reach him beforehand. If he’s an older man who prefers communicating by text message, there’s a good chance he doesn’t check his smartphone very often. Since you’d met several times, he may have thought, “She obviously wouldn’t just not show up.” Once you meet in person, you could explain that it makes you anxious when you can’t confirm things, and suggest exchanging a text message the day before to confirm. It seems like you could discuss ways to avoid this happening again. You weren’t at fault, but it would be a shame if this incident ended things between you and him.

That’s entirely the man’s fault. You’re well within your rights to cut ties after telling him off with something like, “Are you senile or something?”

On apps or Twitter, the questioner’s perspective is fine, but at a dating club, the man is in the right. The difference is whether someone understands that last-minute cancellations like that can happen, or whether they’re an ordinary, sensible person who thinks something like that is simply unacceptable.

Your rhythms just don’t seem to match. You say he’s not the type to reply right away, but roughly how long does he usually take? If he’s normally someone who doesn’t reply within 24 hours, then it wouldn’t be that unusual for him not to respond when you checked in the day before. To be safe, you might want to confirm two days in advance, taking his usual response time into account. He also seems a little off. Despite seeing all those missed calls and messages, he simply told you he’d arrived without reacting to any of them. Maybe he thought, “We never said we were canceling, so nothing has changed,” and was actually viewing you—frantic as you were—a little coldly. Maybe he didn’t answer because he wanted to avoid an emotional exchange. Even if you talked, though, I get the feeling you’d continue to misunderstand each other. In short, your ways of thinking and feeling are different, so rather than trying to correct him by telling him he’s wrong, it would probably be quicker to understand that this is simply the kind of person he is and deal with him accordingly. As for your question, once you understand that you’re incompatible—including the differences in rhythm I mentioned above, if you still want to continue, you go to the meeting place. If you feel that it’s fine to let things end if they end, then you don’t go. To put it more bluntly, I might go if the H is good and I’m not tired of his body yet. From a woman’s perspective, I suppose it comes down to whether the money is good or whether she needs it right now. In the end, relationships that last are with people you’re compatible with. Once you feel someone isn’t a good fit, it’s really just a matter of how long you choose to continue. Taro