What’s the real intention behind papas who try to force-feed you even after you’ve declined, saying your stomach hurts?

Try saying it with a satisfied expression after enjoying a delicious meal: “I’m so full—I can’t eat another bite.” There’s no real reason for her to be upset. If anything, maybe she took “the date wasn’t that great” or “my stomach hurts” to mean you weren’t satisfied… I don’t remember any woman saying something like that except when she was on her period. In any case, you should find a papa (a male supporter) who treats you to delicious, high-quality food rather than just large portions…

The amount of food can actually be a pretty big issue. Women and older men generally don’t eat that much. Restaurant tasting menus are definitely a no-go, and even at a regular restaurant, three or four dishes are more than enough. At a yakiniku restaurant, four servings of meat can be way too much. If you’re aiming to stop at about 80% full, then roughly 80% of that—around three dishes—is plenty. It’s quite a bit less than you might imagine, and if you eat at a normal pace, you won’t even need an hour. Universe sets aside two hours for the first dinner, but two hours is actually pretty long. Male members should keep in mind that ordering a full course can be a burden for some women. You might think, “Young people can eat a lot,” and I used to be on the receiving end of that assumption when I was young—my appetite was actually seen as a positive. But times have changed, and in the first place, it can be tough on women. Some women do eat a lot, of course, but if it looks like too much, you should be prepared to finish it yourself. I often say, “If there’s too much, just let me know and I’ll eat it.” People may not be able to finish, but they also feel bad about leaving food behind for the restaurant staff. When you say that, some women will try their best and say, “I’m fine,” while others will push a half-eaten tempura over to you and say, “I can’t eat this!” The latter felt less rude than like she was opening up to me, which was actually kind of nice—though of course that was based on the overall impression, including how well the conversation was going, haha. Women should also learn how to turn things down in a cheerful way. If a woman gives a lukewarm reaction because of one mistake on the man’s part, he isn’t stupid—he’ll pick up on it, and the tension will only increase. Women may feel anxious because they have very little information about the man, but men are probably nervous too, hoping to make the woman happy on their first date. Wouldn’t it be better to take one or two mistakes or little problems in stride? Ideally, of course, the man should lead everything. But there are wonderful men who may not yet have enough skill or experience. I don’t think diamonds in the rough are limited to women. So, ladies, I’d appreciate it if you could approach the first meeting with a little more leeway. Taro