Maezawa here with an answer.
> My work is so busy that it’s difficult to meet each person even once every one or two months, so I’d like to reduce the number to around three at most. (Sorry if that sounds presumptuous…)
It may sound like an enviable problem, but it could also be a genuinely difficult one. That said, I get the impression that some arrangements naturally come to an end after about six months to a year.
If so, rather than forcing yourself to narrow things down, there’s a chance the number will naturally decrease to around three before long.
That said, if you’re already overwhelmed and it’s becoming too much, you could decide whether to accept an invitation based on which men you personally like.
You could prioritize dates with the men you value most, and tell the others that work has been extremely busy and difficult lately.
Being suddenly told, “I can’t see you anymore,” would probably come as a shock, so gradually creating some distance may be a better approach.
The men may eventually sense that things are coming to an end.
If a man seems trustworthy, you could also arrange one final date. That seems less likely to cause problems than ending things through text alone.
(Though I suppose it depends on assessing the other person’s personality.)
> When a woman wants to end things, does she usually have a conversation about breaking up? Have you ever had any trouble?
More often, the other person simply stops replying, but I’d prefer people to avoid handling things that way if possible.
At Universe, men show the club their identification, so the club knows their real names and addresses. Because of that, I don’t think most men would do anything that could lead to a serious problem, and I don’t recall receiving any reports of trouble.
That said, it’s possible things have happened without being reported.
From what I’ve heard regarding women joining the club, there have apparently been a fair number of cases where a man they met elsewhere became a stalker.
> Do men generally want to end things after having a conversation about the breakup?
I think more men would prefer that.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Breaking things off is difficult, isn’t it?
But sooner or later, every relationship comes to an end.
We always agreed that when the time came, we would face each other and part ways properly.
However, as our circumstances changed, I told one woman that we couldn’t continue seeing each other as things stood, and suggested changing the terms of the arrangement.
She eventually transitioned into an ordinary relationship between an older man and a younger woman.
We had only just started seeing each other, but by then we had become comfortable talking about anything, so I told her to contact me anytime if something came up.
Every now and then, she still sends me an email, though that’s all it is.
I’m sorry this isn’t much of an answer.
She was one of my favorite women, so it didn’t become a complete goodbye—it ended in a somewhat in-between way.
Please just take this as an example of the kind of arrangement some people have.
