Do you think it’s better to avoid papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) if you have a mental illness?
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I’d appreciate any advice or perspectives.
People around me say it would probably make things worse. Personally, I feel that if it really would worsen my condition, I should stop.
(I’d also feel bad if I caused problems for the men involved.)
It’s not that I can’t attract men or that I’m unable to work, but honestly, I lack insight into my own condition. (That’s part of the illness.)
I’d be grateful for any advice.
Hmm... I think it’s best not to do it until you know exactly what’s causing the problem.
Once you know the cause, you can take steps to address it. Otherwise, there’s a chance the symptoms could get worse.
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The level of stress and what you get out of it will depend on you and the other person, so I don’t think there’s a single answer.
Since it involves dealing with another person, I doubt it can be completely stress-free.
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Does “having no insight into your illness” mean that you have schizophrenia and that it’s currently being managed with medication?
The best thing to do is to be honest with your psychiatrist and let them decide whether it’s possible, but they probably won’t tell you to stop. If they got that involved, they’d be crossing a boundary and becoming too close to the patient.
More than anything, it depends on who you meet.
Have you heard the term “reenactment of trauma” (reliving the experience)? If not, please look it up.
It’s fine if you can clearly say that your urge to do, or try to do, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is about money or sexual desire. But if it’s a reenactment of trauma, you may want to think it over carefully.
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I think it really depends on the papa—or rather, on luck.
In the mainstream world, decent, well-adjusted people don’t do papa-katsu, so you could say that both the men and women who need it are missing something or struggling in some way.
I think papa-katsu exists to make up for or fulfill whatever that missing need is. Whether it will have the desired effect for you or end up making things worse is impossible to say.
If you can’t see any other way to change your current situation, taking the plunge might be an option.
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