I’m seeing a papa who has several PJs, and I feel like I’m not his number one.

I’ve been the “number one” for several papas, and I think most of them were originally the type who would have preferred to focus on just one woman if possible. However, the papa who currently gives me the most support says, “I never imagined I’d end up seeing just one person.” So in his case, I feel like I completely won him over with my strategy—though I may be giving myself too much credit. Specifically, I complimented his masculinity, always replied quickly, worked around his schedule, and acted devoted and straightforward. I was also proactive about intimacy, and in my thank-you messages, I’d write something specific—about two lines or so—such as, “I’ve never felt this good before,” and express my gratitude. When I look at the messages this papa receives from other papa-katsu girls, they’re usually just things like, “Thank you so much! I definitely want to see you again,” without mentioning how they felt about the intimacy. I didn’t send generic messages; I would sometimes send him flirty messages tailored to him. I also made sure to show him that I was serious about my daytime job. That’s about it, I think… This papa is extremely popular, so the other girls tend to hold back and act like they’re just one of several women. I absolutely didn’t want to be like that. In the end, he adores me, so I’m glad things worked out. I hope you’ll do your best in your own way too.

Becoming his number one is easy. Break things off with a papa who’s seeing multiple people, and date a papa who’s only looking for one partner. Then you’ll be number one. At that point, don’t focus on the money—be his papa（笑） Personally, I don’t end a relationship until my partner says, “I want to stop seeing each other.”

For my number one, I’d lend them over ¥10 million, with repayment deferred until they’re successful. They’re perfect at pretending to genuinely be in love with me and letting themselves depend on me, so I can end up liking them too.

I don’t think you need to be number one. Pay close attention to your partners so things can continue long-term, and make sure you enjoy yourself too. Trying to become someone’s number one sounds exhausting. Personally, I’m seeing two people, and they’re tied for first place. I can’t decide which one ranks higher.

From a man’s perspective, I think being ideal in every way—her looks, the chemistry between you, the comfort she provides, and even your sexual compatibility and orgasms—is a basic prerequisite. However, that alone isn’t enough. You need a relationship that’s special to both of you. For example, even if your sexual chemistry is absolutely perfect, it won’t feel special if you think she’s probably the same with other people. You need to build a bond that exists only between the two of you—something that makes it difficult for either of you to walk away. The same applies to things beyond sex. I believe a lasting relationship can only be built once you’ve become truly inseparable. Also, if the papa clearly dates multiple women, it’s very difficult to become his number one. In many cases, he may not even be looking for one particular favorite or an exclusive relationship in the first place. If that’s the case, there’s no need to think about or focus on being number one. > What do you do for your number-one favorite? I think I do anything for her—anything I can make happen.

Everyone has different preferences, so rather than asking others, I think it’s better to observe and analyze the man carefully. Personally, I find it difficult to rank my partners, so being called someone’s top choice doesn’t really resonate with me. Instead, I tailor things to each woman’s individual preferences.