Isn’t it sad to measure your own worth by how much allowance you receive?
Some women say they don’t want to sell themselves cheaply, but I have no interest in having an adult relationship (intimate) with someone who thinks that way.
If you’re going to have an adult relationship (intimate) anyway, why not make it enjoyable?
I see this as a place where both people choose each other and enjoy an adult relationship—not a sex-work service…
Giving someone an allowance isn’t about putting a price on them. It’s simply a token of appreciation for spending time with me.
I edited the parts where I expressed my own opinions and left the question intact.
You wrote, “I end up focusing too much on money,” and then asked, “Do I still seem too money-focused?”
The wording feels a bit contradictory.
I mean, you can’t really blame people for focusing on the money.
With a club, men will keep making offers and you’ll keep meeting new people—unless you decide you absolutely can’t meet anyone like that again.
Well, if you look at it that way, anyone who doesn’t give you money is someone not worth meeting, so the world becomes nice and simple, doesn’t it? The world is actually much more complicated, but I guess you want a simple explanation that makes everything feel tidy. You probably like Marvel movies, don’t you? I doubt you’ve seen it, but I think you’d get hooked on period dramas like *Mito Komon*（笑）
Even just counting the women I’ve had arrangements with that lasted, the allowance has ranged from around 30,000 to 70,000 yen, so I don’t know where I would rank among “people who pay ◯ in allowance.” I don’t particularly want to travel together, but I have gone to places like Torikizoku when she suggested it. There have also been times when, after eating, being intimate, giving her the allowance, and being ready to head home, she said she wanted a particular Starbucks drink, so I spent another 30 minutes with her.
Some women view dating clubs as a kind of amateur-style sex service—sorry for the poor wording—and say things like, “I’ll do my very best in return for the allowance.” But I think it’s a mistake to approach someone with the mindset of providing a service. Isn’t it best when both people genuinely feel that they’re having fun and enjoying themselves? It’s true that the chances aren’t very high, but it’s unfortunate that some people disregard that from the outset.
If you want to make everything about money, that’s fine, but then don’t complain about the customers. A customer who’s convenient for you is extremely rare. Someone who voluntarily pays extra without being asked is practically an urban legend. That said, generous (well-paying) supporters do exist, albeit rarely, and some women manage to find them. If you want to win the lottery, you have no choice but to buy a lot of tickets. If you complain about every losing ticket, complain to the retailer, and vent your frustration by trying to explain the world with convoluted nonsense, then while you’re doing all that, someone who buys 100 tickets has multiplied their chances of winning by 100.
To put it simply, buying lottery tickets is like securing offers. If you want to focus on money, you should devote yourself to getting more offers. Complaining about the “losing tickets” (male members) you meet, or coming up with convoluted theories about how those losing tickets work, won’t get you anywhere. What matters is actively working to secure more offers. I do wonder about people who complain nonstop without putting in the effort necessary to make that happen.
There must be something else you could be doing.
Taro
