I’m currently receiving ¥300,000 per meeting from my papa, but a new man offered ¥50,000 per meeting. How should I respond?

I don’t know, and it’s really up to you. A papa (a male supporter) who pays 300,000 yen probably has some pretty intense demands, so that sounds tough. I hope you can make it work without the relationship ending.

Even though Universe says it doesn’t get involved in allowances, if they receive feedback from a man saying something like, “This woman was asking for ¥300,000,” then from that point on, her profile may say, “This woman has high expectations when it comes to money.” So if you simply and honestly turn someone down by saying, “My expectation is ¥300,000, so I’m afraid that won’t work for me,” there’s a greater chance that you’ll stop receiving offers from men who offer low allowances. That said, since anything in the six-figure yen range is considered “high” expectations, you’ll probably still receive offers from men thinking, “I might make an offer if it’s around ¥100,000.” With that in mind, I sometimes feel it might be better to register with a club that tells men the expected allowance, rather than Universe, which doesn’t get involved in allowances. Of course, if that club were ever raided, its membership list would probably be seized too, so you might at least receive an inquiry. Also, some gentlemen don’t provide feedback, so to encourage them to do so whenever possible, you could say things like: “Huh? Does ¥50,000 mean US$50,000? It doesn’t have to be that high. Pay-per-meeting at ¥300,000 is fine.” Or: “Wait, you don’t mean ¥50,000, do you? I thought only people on dating sites offered that much. This is a dating club, after all. Are there really men like that these days?” If you annoy him enough to make him angry, it might increase the chances that he’ll send feedback to the club, which could work in your favor.

You can either say, “I already get plenty from my other papas, so I don’t need an allowance,” or say, “I have someone who gives me 30,000 yen per meeting,” and accept the allowance. After parting ways that day, send a quick thank-you message, then decide whether to leave him on read or meet him again.

I think you should say: “I’m a super celebrity who gets 30 per meeting, so any poor loser who can only shell out five tissues’ worth of cash doesn’t deserve to be alive. Run home right now, bring a wad of cash, and come back the day before yesterday, you useless, thick-headed, small-dicked, foul-mouthed old man.”

I’m not good at saying no, so I’d probably accept 5 once, then stop meeting that person after that. Basically, I’d just fade out. I’ve never had any trouble because of it.

I think you should just say how you feel.