Hello, I have something weighing on my mind and wanted to ask for advice.

Just like the person asking this question, some women decide from the start that they’ll stop after one year or two years. I think it’s a good idea to tell the men this from time to time as well. That way, they’re less likely to make an issue of it because they’ll remember, “Come to think of it, she did say that from the beginning.” (You don’t need to mention it before you start seeing each other; it’s better to bring it up once you’ve gotten somewhat close.) That said, you may still have lingering feelings for the man. If he keeps trying to persuade you to stay, then you’ll have to decide whether to block him or not. You can think about that if and when it happens. However, some men do occasionally become stalkers, so it’s probably best to be careful not to share too much personal information in your day-to-day interactions.

If you sincerely express your gratitude for everything up to now, you should be able to end things without any problems. I once failed to do that, and things ended up getting seriously messy. Please be very careful to handle the breakup properly.

I don’t think you need to worry about it that much. Even if he gets along well with his wife, he’ll probably portray it as if they don’t get along… so I don’t think you’ll ever know the truth.