I’ve been seeing the same papa for about six months.

Basically, this is a relationship involving money, and even when it isn’t, sometimes things just don’t work out. So it’s probably best to be prepared for that to some extent. That said, if you have feelings for her or positive feelings about your relationship, I think you should express them properly and let her know as much as possible. If you tell her and it doesn’t work out, then it can’t be helped—but if you never tell her, you may end up regretting it. It’s not unpleasant to be told that someone likes you. Some people might become wary if they think you like them so much that you’ll become clingy, but if that’s not the case, then you should say it. Sometimes your attitude conveys it, too. In any case, it’s better to express what you’re feeling. Don’t worry about whether to tell her—think about how to tell her. For example, there was a woman who was having a hard time with stress from work, but still made time to see me and smiled as she said, “It was fun, and I got to take my mind off things.” There was also an adult video actress with whom I had a transactional relationship, but the chemistry during intimacy was great. Right afterward, she hugged me and said, “I like you because you always make sure I’m satisfied.” It doesn’t have to be anything dramatic. I think it’s really important to put into words the things you appreciate and tell the other person properly. I heard that letters from the affair involving Ryoko Hirosue were reported in the news. I haven’t read them, but if I did, I might end up taking Hirosue’s side. Putting your feelings into words and expressing them is incredibly important, whatever the circumstances. Taro

I don’t think you need to worry. In my case, I somehow had a gut feeling with the papas I’ve stayed with long-term—like, “This person is definitely going to fall for me.” lol If you act overly eager just because you’re anxious, they’ll see right through it. I think things last when you’re simply genuine and well-behaved. Besides, if you’re a good match, they won’t cut things off after just six months, so I wouldn’t worry. At some point, you can tell that neither of you is seeing anyone else. Enjoy yourself.

To ease your anxiety, why not ask for an allowance covering the next six months to a year? Since it’s already been six months, if he really likes you, he might even give you six months’ or a year’s worth that day. Why not give it a try?

If all your feelings become focused on one person, you can get too emotionally involved. Get a boyfriend. Keep doing papa-katsu until you find another papa (a male supporter) who’s just as good. Find a good papa. Find a friends-with-benefits partner. I think it’s a warning sign when you don’t spread your feelings around. If your papa senses that you’re becoming too emotionally invested, things could end up exactly as you fear. Let’s spread your feelings across multiple relationships!

papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a kind of contract, so I think it’s best to stick to the terms of the arrangement. What were the original terms? What are the current terms? Don’t expect anything beyond that. Don’t raise your expectations. I think that’s the basic rule. When you’re unsure, it’s best to go back to the starting point. This applies to both men and women. If you raise your expectations too much, you may end up becoming a stalker or harassing the other person. As for the relationship itself, I think the best approach is to take it seriously, value it, and make sure you don’t go beyond the current terms of the arrangement.

You could write about all sorts of things, but somehow, when you try to put them into words, you end up getting farther away from a solution. That’s just how these things are. Maybe it’s about giving up and accepting that you’re a woman, and there’s nothing you can do about it. I mean, women can’t escape menstruation, right? In the same way, you can’t escape or distance yourself from those feelings. Maybe the first step is to give up resisting them and accept them. And on top of that, you must never forget to be grateful that this person made you feel that strongly. It’s important to be aware of that. Express it through your actions. By “actions,” I mean literally put your hands together and pray right now. That is gratitude. Whenever you feel heartbroken, just put your hands together and pray. Try doing that first. It’s better not to come up with complicated strategies. If you overthink things, you can end up with strange thoughts like, “Maybe it would be wiser to say goodbye myself before my pride gets hurt.” But you’re thinking too much. Accept being a woman, don’t forget your gratitude, actually put your hands together in prayer, and then let things take their course. That’s probably about all the questioner can do on their own.

Anxiety is something that comes from within you, so there’s nothing anyone else can say or do to make it go away. I believe you have to face it and work through it yourself. That said, if you’ve had a happy relationship for six months, it’s unlikely he’d move on just because he found someone with better terms. In most cases, breakups are more likely to result from changes in either person’s circumstances or complacency that comes with familiarity. So rather than simply being afraid because you feel anxious, I think you should use that feeling as motivation not to let your guard down.